Can I wear a black dress to a wedding?

[Jollymollyx]

My sister said I would look more dressed for a funeral. What is the situation with black dresses for weddings? It’s off the shoulder and tight and I was going to wear a fascinator
Thanks

@BubblesBuddy are you for real? Do you honestly think we're all meant to be dressed the same?! My own wedding was an amazing mix of eclectic outfits, some traditional, some really not at all, everyone looked amazing!
I'm seriously worried for you, if you truly think we should be looking at the clothes that folk wore to a royal wedding (or Ascot!!) for 'guidance'

Op, you're pregnant (congratulations!) wear whatever you feel good and comfortable in. Your original outfit sounds lovely!

I think it’s rude to wear black to weddings, means you disapprove. This might be an outdated view but it is always my initial reaction

I never understand all the messages that an outfit is apparently giving at weddings. People don’t wear black to weddings because they disapprove of the match, that’s like something from Jane Austen times! Perhaps they just like black and struggle with colour?! I know loads of people who only ever wear black

Black is fine. Wear what you like really. It’s an invite not a demand. Obviously don’t wear a wedding dress though.

I always wear black to weddings! I think it is fine. I normally wear a beige pashmina and jewellery too - I think I look chic and not funeral like.
The only things I was offended with at my own wedding was white and someone wore a really low cut and short red mini dress which was pretty revealing and inappropriate.

Would it have passed muster at Prince Harry’s wedding? If not, it’s a No. Just not appropriate.

This has got to be the funniest thing I’ve ever read on MN.

And this is why I don't go to weddings.. the palarver of dress codes. Heels, fascinaters, pashminas, little bags

Is Bubbles having a laugh? If not suitable for Price Harry's do, it's inappropriate? She must be.

I've worn a tux (black) with heels to quite a few weddings, I think it's absolutely fine these days.

Monochrome is always stylish. Enjoy

Stylish is however not a synonym for 'suitable for this occasion'

The days are long gone when black is just a funeral colour. I think it’s just old fashioned to say it’s not appropriate to wear at a wedding. Plenty of people wear black all the time which wasn’t the case in times gone by, so in the past it may have been inappropriate for weddings but not now if it’s not worn in a somber way

I would usually say no to black at a wedding, but I went to a similar wedding, late afternoon in a hotel in the winter.

I'd put in weight and had nothing else that fitted and could face shopping, so I texted the bride to ask if she minded me wearing black ( I was doing a reading)

She said she didn't care what I wore as long as I was there. And she meant it.

Depends what it's like and how you accessorize it I think.

Black has never been funerals only.

It has never been appropriate for weddings though. There are plenty of colours in which one can look just as stylish, and not make a gaffe. It's not an old-fashioned rule, it's still going strong (even though some people do not mind breaches). Plain black is not stylish at a wedding, no matter how accessorised, and predominantly black is better avoided too. Ditto white and near/white, and for some cultures, red.

I think you can at a wedding that isn't held in a church. I think your outfit sounds beautiful.

So pictures of the most stylish people at the most stylish events are not even worth looking at for inspiration? No wonder we are a less than chic and appropriately dressed nation. Quite sad really.

You didn’t say inspiration though bubbles, you said if it didn’t pass muster at Prince Harry’s wedding then it was inappropriate

Yes! I have as I was pregnant and felt shite! And I have when not pregnant, honestly I can’t remember if anyone wore black to my wedding...why?...because I didn’t give a crap as it was my wedding day. I don’t think anyone will REALLY care. So go ahead and wear it if it’s what you want to wear!! 👍

Black is absolutely fine IMO.

I wouldn't but Fergie did at Ellie Gouldings wedding so maybe it's ok.