Help with streamlining my wardrobe please please!

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I have a lot of clothes, way too many. I’m a size 14 but am heavier than I would like at the moment. I know I’m not huge but just seeing some holiday pics of me I was shocked at how large I look.
I want to get rid of some clothes and I love the Marie kondo method but find it so hard with clothes. Nothing sparks joy for me as I feel big and that my shape is awkward. I just get comfortable with dressing for a season and then the next arrives and I’m stuck all over again.
I look ok in high waisted peg trousers and a t tucked in but this only works with sandals like birks. Ankle boots seem to only look good with skinnies which I can’t wear as my hips and thighs are too big. I buy things often to try and make me feel
Better about myself and thinking that it will look good but then I see a pic of myself and think I look awful. I have so many clothes I don’t want to get rid of because I think I like them but I never wear them because after a while I don’t think they suit me. Maybe it’s my shape, i have quite broad shoulders, wide hips, don’t like my arms or thighs. I do have a fairly small waist though.
I would love to be able to throw something on casually and look good but I can’t. I have to really work at it and even then it doesn’t work.
As a result, loads of clothes and a sense of guilt and despair.
Sounds ridiculous I know

You're only size 14. I know how fat that feels (I'm size 14 too and quite short) but even though we look hefty in photos, we are hefty with shape. So you can choose clothes according to how well they emphasise your best features.
I am sticking with trousers that are loose-ish but pegged. No wide legs, no skinnies Keep the ones in the most versatile colours and best fabrics. Fabric and cut are so important.
Since almost no one is cutting tops to emphasise small waists if you have big hips I've given up trying to look slim on top and aim for really beautiful flowing shirts in good fabrics and patterns. I have a few long silk ones that work and loads of cheap H&M patterned ones that get heaps of compliments.
Sweaters and cardigans - keep cashmere, cotton and linen. Keep ones that skim and don't cling.

Get rid of everything that feels lumpy and tight; tops that are too short and also clothes that are too big I often buy stuff too large by accident because I feel enormous but 14 isn't actually enormous and we don't look any slimmer if we wear tents.

Agree with growling (sounds like we’re similar shape & size)
Get rid of anything cropped or midi for starters (if you’re anything like me they’ll make you look dumpy) also anything too short/ tight as they’ll make you look bigger than you are.
What’s your style OP? Do you like bright colours? And what age are you?

Thanks for the replies both. In answer to your question, I’m 40. I do like colours and am a HOC winter so I suit strong cool colours. In theory all my wardrobe should work together colour wise but I keep wearing the black and navy things at the moment because 1. I think they make me look slimmer 2. I want to blend in rather than stand out in bright colours and 3. In an attempt to “capsule “ my wardrobe I’ve been lately mainly buying in black and navy. Those colours I def feel more confident in but I do love colour

I forgot the style question.
I like fashion but am not a slave to it. I’m trying to buy more classic things lately to avoid buying things and not wearing them but I seem to unable to find my style properly, I have loads of classic things but also lots of fashion things. The look I most admire is Laura Fantacci From wardrobe icons If you know her

So what about some nice tops in wine/ emerald/ royal blue to mix in with the navy & black?
Are you more casual or formal?

I wouldn’t say I’m formal in my clothes but I struggle with v casual. I def can’t pull off that casual thrown on look unless it’s a dress. I also think having hips and a waist makes clothes look less casual somehow if that makes any sense.
I wear jeans and trousers etc but also love dresses. My friends would say I dress up a lot I’m sure. I just feel like a magpie that has too many “looks” and no single style.
I have no idea how to describe my style at all and that’s the problem.

Are you looking at photos taken with a phone?
Everyone I know always looks bigger than they really are in phone photos. I try not to take any selfies and use the mirror as a true gauge of my size and shape instead.
14 isn’t big at all. I’ll bet you look great in real life.
How tall are you.
It’s good that you don’t stick to just one style and can wear lots of different things.

I’m 5’7” so reasonably tall i suppose. And yes I think all pics are on phones now, I would love to think that was the problem but I’m not sure. I look much bigger than everyone else on pics which makes me think it’s the mirror that’s lying!
I just really want to declutter and only keep things I love but I don’t really love anything because I don’t feel anything looks great on me anymore and I’m not sure what my particular style is. I’m so jealous of people who have a style and stick to it