I don't have a style

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This post will likely come across confusing, because I am confused.

I'm 31 and I've lost nearly 8 stone in the last year. I was a 26 and I'm now between a 12-14. Because of the weight I was, I would wear things that would hide my body... Rather than things I enjoy like black leggings and long sleeve tunic tops.

Before I gained weight I was "alternative", into the Pop Punk scene (I still am though it's died off). Band tees, emo-ish.

I would like to find myself a classy, "alternative" suitable for a mother of young children and school runs.

I still feel very large, I'm scared of looking like Ursula in a wig.

I prefer a Charlotte Tilbury makeup look though, which does that even go?

I want to return some of my edginess to my wardrobe, but I'm scared I'm too old. I don't like that rock hillbilly look. Looks good on others but not my thing. I don't like wearing red.

I'm blonde, with a balayage I would like teal in my hair but again, am I too old?

I'm so lost. I have no clue on what to wear! Where to start? I find I am buying singular items and nothing ties together or looks like a complete outfit. How does an outfit look complete? I have never really understood style. I am a person with autism and it goes over my head mostly.

I just want to find me again, a huge part of that was in my style before the weight gain.

Well done on your amazing weight loss!

I lost myself a bit after dc. I'd recommend looking up outfits/styles you like on Pinterest. Create a board and add loads of looks you like. This will create a basic shopping list as you recreate some of the looks.

Really helped me. Good luck

Thank you!

That is a good idea, thanks alot I forgot all about Pinterest.

That's an amazing weight loss, well done you!

I agree with Pinterest, also look at what other people are wearing. Is there a celebrity whose style you like?

I think you should also get the teal in your hair, you're not too old at 31. Given your previous style I think it'll help you feel more like you.

As for the makeup get your makeup done at a CT counter. Generally you pay but can redeem the cost against buying products.

It'll take a bit of time to tweak your style, but I think autumn/winter is the easiest time to do it. Have fun!

Fabulous! Huge congratulations- I need to do the same but hard in the holidays.

I very highly recommend getting your colours done.i did it & a style day combined & best money dh ever spent! It made me understand my best suited styles & colours & for the most part I really stick to it & it feels comfortably me. Everything mixes & matches as it's colour coordinated from a seasonal palette. Mine was with house of colour & found my best shade of lipstick is bright orange red & I love it!

That's amazing weight loss, well done!!
I second the Pinterest recommendation, whenever I buy a stand alone item just because I love it, I search for "black sleeveless blouse outfit" or "how to style black sleeveless blouse" then look through the results. It often brings up outfit ideas I'd never considered trying.

I don't stick to one style, some days I'll wear leather leggings and a silk shirt, some days a sundress and sparkly sandals. I really enjoy trying out new looks, although I tend to veer towards sharp, almost architectural clothes.

The more you look and mull it over, the better you'll get at styling things to suit you

I'm also 31 and having recently had DC2 I've been feeling totally in a rut, frumpy and just blah. I've done a Pinterest board as above but also joined the styled by Susie tribe on Facebook. That's a suggestion I had off here and it's great! You can get an online analysis from Susie which I haven't done but think I will, or you can see lots of people posting their outfits and get ideas that way.

I also lost myself after my dc. I'm not a mainstream style and for a while would wear things that I thought made me look slim, rather than what suited me.

I find winter easier as I live in skinny jeans and a pair of edgy, combat type boots (I feel that gives me my edginess)

As others have said, find an item you love and use Pinterest.

Oh, and no you're never too old to colour your hair teal. But I would get a hairdresser to do it rather than do it yourself for a classier look

Don't worry about being too old. You'll regret that when you're 50/60/70 etc.

You're just 31 so not too old for anything. Which you will probably only realise in another 10 years time!

As far as style goes it's OK to not be able to recognise your own style. I'm 48 and don't know what my style is, although I like to think I can put together a reasonable outfit. Unless you are a maximalist who loves clashing patterns (in which case you are unlikely to be on here asking these questions) then get most of your clothes in your favourite neutral and then a few items in a more 'look at me' colour or pattern. It might help to think about which items you find easiest to buy, e.g. I love shoes so regularly wear monotone outfits with colourful shoes. But you could as easily wear neutral shoes and jumpers with colourful trousers (in fact my favourite outfit this summer is navy gingham trousers with white shoes and navy top or navy shoes and white top).

Thank you lots of helpful tips!

I am 31, but feel 91. I have other stuff going on health-wise which adds to my feeling like I'm elderly.

I started a board. It appears most of them are title things like "90s grunge". So a lot of denim, band tees, oversized knits. I also like the stranger things / 70s aesthetic. I think I need a pair of vans, converse, doc Martin's and to shop for some dark denim. I am very fond of mustard and burnt orange which will look awful with teal hair.

I also wear gold (wedding rings) and most stuff is accented with silver in this "vibe". Darnit.