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Is it okay to wear a white top to a wedding?

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Lily2811 · 06/08/2019 16:26

Boyfriends sisters wedding in September. Is this outfit okay? Very wary of white but a white top with a skirt is okay, isn't it?

Is it okay to wear a white top to a wedding?
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Mammyloveswine · 06/08/2019 18:56

Personally I think that outfit would look odd with a jacket, too "missmash". Sorry OP! Even more so with your hair and make up done!

I assume your boyfriend is wearing a suit? Does he have any cousins etc? Any mutual friends sign the bride? So you can judge how dressed up everyone will be?

Mammyloveswine · 06/08/2019 18:58

Ok then sorry OP i wouldn't wear a white top but not sure what other colour/style would go with the skirt other than a plain vest! Maybe a tan coloured cami with gold accessories and tan heels? Gold belt at the waist?

SayNoToCarrots · 06/08/2019 19:03

At some smart / london-people weddings, a simple summer dress is de rigueur (in the summer). I've outed myself as the poor relation by dressing up too much at a couple of weddings 😂

squee123 · 06/08/2019 19:06

I wouldn't wear the white top. White with a pattern fine, but as said above in photos that cut your bottom off you'll look a bit bridey. Also why take the risk? Hopefully these people will be on your life forever so I'd play it safe

MoltonSilver · 06/08/2019 19:07

I dont think it's suitable for a wedding in September for a number of reasons but sticking to the question you asked - a white shirt might be ok but not a dressy white top like that. When you're sitting it will just look like a wedding dress.

Paddyodoors · 06/08/2019 19:16

You mentioned it's not a fancy affair but are getting your hair and make up done for it. Therefore wouldn't you want a dress worthy of that?

BenWillbondsPants · 06/08/2019 19:17

No, I don't think it's suitable for a wedding.

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Lily2811 · 06/08/2019 19:36

@Paddyodoors I always get my hair and make up done for a wedding.

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SnappedandFartedagain · 06/08/2019 19:37

Seems strange paying to get hair and make up done for a wedding but then wearing really cheap clothes. Why not look the best you can?

Carpetburns · 06/08/2019 19:55

No to the white top and the skirt. At least wear a dress. Literally everyone on this thread agrees that it isn't right for a wedding, except you. Confused

ExpletiveDelighted · 06/08/2019 19:56

Well, the jacket does make a difference because it will hide the white top to some extent.

idhavenoluckifitwasntforbadluc · 06/08/2019 20:00

I wouldn't, looks very casual.

CheckingOutTheQuantocks · 06/08/2019 20:07

The trouble with that skirt is that I can really only see a white top going with it, and the white top you've chosen looks too much like the bodice of a wedding dress might. Having said that, yellow might conceivably work, if you're set on that skirt as your only option. Tbh, I would just look for something else.

pinkcardi · 06/08/2019 20:12

It's a nice outfit but I don't think it's suitable for a wedding.

I think it's a bit casual, and that the white top is too like a bodice.

I also think that as the bride is your boyfriends sister you might find yourself more in the limelight. If that were me I would want an absolutely stunning outfit, and one which had no possibility of anyone having an issue with. And that for me would rule out a white top and a smart casual skirt.

blankiesandunicorns · 06/08/2019 20:21

I'm getting married soon and honestly I wouldn't care, but then I wouldnt care if someone came in a white dress aslong as it didn't look like a wedding dress because that would be weird!

But I'm probably more relaxed than many brides

Miseryisabutterfly · 07/08/2019 08:48

I’d try to find a cami in the same colour as the skirt and wear that instead. It would look more put together imo.

NiteFlights · 07/08/2019 09:48

I will stick my neck out and say I don’t think the outfit is too casual. The outfits people suggest on MN for weddings sometimes seem more suitable for Westminster Abbey than a normal do. However, the top has the issue of being both white AND a dressy/bridal neckline. Personally I don’t like it at all because it looks like the top of a dress and I agree with pp that it would look wrong when you’re seated. A plain camisole or even a shell top would be better.

I think a white top generally is fine though, perhaps with a jacket (tricky to get one that goes with the skirt??) and preferably some very non-bridal jewellery (necklace or earrings). Also a colourful manicure and pedicure would be good. Avoid cream, white, sparkly, etc for all accessories.

nothingwittyhere · 07/08/2019 11:25

Carpetburns: "Literally everyone on this thread agrees that it isn't right for a wedding, except you."

I didn't. Tinselandknickers didn't. And a lot of the other posters were either answering a question (about how smart/expensive the outfit should be) that hadn't been asked or being a bit more nuanced about what white tops could be worn.

optimisticpessimist01 · 07/08/2019 11:50

Because it is a close family members (I know not technically, but it kind of is) wedding, I agree that it's far too casual.

As for the white top, I just wouldn't wear it. If you're questioning it then it's just not worth it. Some people would mind, some people wouldn't. Plus on the day you'll be worrying about your white top and what people are thinking

Just avoid it and go for something else, there are hundreds of outfit choices

ImMeantToBeWorking · 07/08/2019 13:35

I was at a wedding at the weekend, one of the grooms friends wore a white top a trousers, another guest wore I white dress. If I wasn't sober I would think I was seeing things!!

The white top and trousers did look a bit casual but as you are not worried about that I think it would be ok. Why not talk to the bride about it?

Battytwatty · 07/08/2019 13:38

Where what you want. Nobody is going to mistake you for the bride as she’ll be wearing a bloody wedding dress. When did not wearing white for a wedding become a thing? I’m 50 and I’ve only heard about it in the last decade and I’ve been to loads of weddings

CheckingOutTheQuantocks · 07/08/2019 14:21

It has always been standard wedding etiquette that you don't wear white to a wedding unless the bride and groom have specifically asked their guests to do so. It does not matter whether or not the dress is "weddingy". It does not matter if the bride herself is not wearing white. You just don't do it. There will always be something else you can find - even if white is very becoming on you and every other colour looks crap, you have to suck it up, because it's really not about you on this particular occasion. It's only on MN that I have ever come across people who claim never to have heard of this! I'm fairly sure it's been a thing for a lot longer than MN has been around.

CookPassBabtridge · 07/08/2019 14:25

I don't see anything wrong with it and I can't believe people saying it's casual... makeup done, hair done and some nice accessories will finish it. I don't know anyone who would go to the shops dressed like that!

ReturnofSaturn · 07/08/2019 15:44

I agree the skirt is very casual. I wear those type skirts every day and I have a young toddler!

Nesssie · 07/08/2019 15:47

No. Its the unspoken rule you don't wear white. Even if the bride says its ok. Its not about being 'mistaken for the bride' etc. Its one day where you can wear any other colour but white.

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