I’ve lost my fashion sense 😔

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I feel like over the last few years (as we’ve been on a strict money budget) my sense of style has disappeared and now I’ve been round the shops as I really need new clothes as all mine are washed out/falling apart, I just feel like I don’t know what’s ‘me’ any more.

Also, the few things I have chosen, my DH hasn’t liked what I’ve chosen at all and even made some light jokes. I know he didn’t mean to, but it has knocked my confidence and doubted my choices so I don’t feel as nice any more.

Does anyone have any tips or advice to build confidence, self esteem and essentially find yourself again? Or has anyone else felt this way? How did you snap out of it?

Watching with interest because this is me

Doing nice little grooming things for myself regularly helped me a lot after a bereavement and a hard financial spell that came afterwards.

So started with things like having a face mask, or a foot mask. Then lead to painting my toenails and nails again, which led me to thinking through which colours/effects suited me and appealed to me. That was supplemented by a lot of reading about colour theory in blogs, doing questionnaires, that kind of thing. Then looking at what styles suited different body types.

Then once I had the colours and body shape sorted out, I started remembering what I used to like/used to suit me, and I started trying on stuff that was the right colour/right for body shape/wasn’t a million miles from what I liked and suited me from before. I tried on a lot of stuff, and often just came back with a nail varnish, but it was fun.

Maybe also have word with your DH about how your feeling and ask him to be supportive. That means being honest about whether something suits you, but being kind about how it’s said. That’s if you’re absolutely sure he’s not a dick. Any hint that he is deliberately trying to undermine your self-confidence, well think hard about that.

Start with basics in neutral colours that you can mix and match. Look at YouTube and bloggers/vloggers for inspiration. If you see someone wearing something you like as where they got it! It's daunting when you're coming out of a rut, but I would gently suggest you dress for yourself in clothes you like. Relax, take your time looking first and have fun!

Wonderful advice there from Zazie .
Imo colour is so important especially against the face so I would spend time ensuring that I knew my colours and buy a couple of tops that suited me in my best colours and work my way through everything else .

I'm in exactly the same boat.

Me too OP. Trying to get "me" back after three years of losing myself in the baby stage and have found I haven't a clue anymore! Very unsuccessful shopping trip last month where I gave up and just went home feeling ugh.

Since then I've started regularly coming on the S&b board. Googling the suggestions people put on here, having a look at the Instagram pages of the bloggers mentioned and upped by grooming game at home (nails/hair etc). My clothes were literally falling apart and it was overwhelming starting from scratch so I narrowed it down to basics (1 pair of jeans, basic T-shirt's/tops, new sandals) and went out Saturday with a list!

It was much more successful and has given me a start. Hoping by starting slowly I can build on it and eventually get my mojo back. Good luck!

I think a neutral capsule is a good starting point. Also bloggers 'Style this Life', 'Seasons and Salt' and 'Unfancy' are worth a look.

Keep in mind that silhouettes are changing if you want to look more fashionable- it is much more wider legged/shorter top now. Wide leg cropped jumpsuits seem to behaving a moment and are a no-brainer to style up.

Personally I would start with a basics capsule and add interest with stuff gleaned from charity shops/etsy/ebay - like handmade necklaces.

Try booking a stylist appointment in a department store, they are free and you are under no obligation to buy. They can help you with a small capsule wardrobe to start with then add bits too it, charity shops, supermarkets and high street chains all have reasonable options, Sainsbury's I find particularly good