Funeral outfit - do you have a standby?

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This is probably a bit strange but I think I need something in my wardrobe suitable for funerals. If you have something you know you can pull out, should you need to, what is it? Skirt/dress/trousers & nice blouse? Any suggestions and links much appreciated. Thanks.

I've got a black pinstriped shift dress and wear it with dark tights and boots. It was from matalan ages ago but it's really good quality

I picked up a Hobbs dress from the charity shop . Plain black , just in case ( getting to that age ! )

I have a plain black dress. Cardigan and boots with it in winter, ballet pumps in summer.

In some of my jobs, it's been quite formal business dress so I have a fair selection of black dresses and black jackets to choose from. I went to a funeral last month and I wore a black fitted crepe dress from Jaeger with a black jacket from Burberry. Same goes for a selection of black court shoes.and black handbags. As jewellery for funerals, I wear a multi-strand pearl necklace with pearl earrings (I often trot these out for job interviews too).

A plain black shift dress I got from jaeger outlet in a sale. I don't think you have to necessarily wear black but it saves me scrabbling round to find something sombre as a lot of my clothes are erm vibrant.

Thanks all ... a black dress sounds the best option - quite popular too.

Trumpton ... yes, me too with that age - depressing, isn’t it.

I’ve got two black Hobbs dresses: one tailored shift dress from a charity shop, one shirt dress from the sale. I’ve worn them both a zillion times to work, but they also mean that I wouldn’t have to think for a second about what to wear to a funeral.

I do but attending them is an occupational hazard as I work for a church. I have all black, and black with small flowers depending on the type of funeral plus comfy shoes that don't make much noise - big one in two weeks, former Lord Mayor which will be interesting, 300+ mourners

Yes. I have a black coat, dress and bag from Primark just for funerals.

No I don’t have a single outfit as there are too many variables: weather, time of year, whether cremation or burial, family wishes. Unless the family have asked otherwise (or unless it’s my immediate family)I just wear something reasonably smart, sober, weather appropriate and totally unmemorable, usually a variation on dark boring trousers, dark boring top, dark coat. I think the point is to be there, pay your respects and otherwise be inconspicuous and I don’t think that requires a dedicated outfit.

I have a black dress which I wear with either a coat or cardigan depending on time of year/weather for family or people to whom I was close. For funerals I’m attending because I’m close to family of the deceased I wear a dark burgundy skirt with a dark top.

No. I never wear black and so would think it unlucky to buy something and have it hanging there specifically for the purpose of funerals.

If I needed to attend one I would order a dress, jacket and shoes on one-day delivery.

I always find I've gone up a size from my last funeral.

No, I am buying at the moment for one. I never wear dresses, so far I have a black top on it's way from next. Umm

A black dress, although I didn't buy it for a funeral specifically. Knee length, 3/4 sleeves (so it suits summer and winter). A-line skirt, so it's not too fitted. I also bought a size bigger than usual (I'm an 8 in some clothes, a 10 in others) so I bought a 10 to allow for fluctuations. I wear with black tights and black ankle boots or black courts in winter, and clear tights and black courts in summer. Any dark coloured coat is fine (grey, navy, black). although I've been to funerals where people have worn their usual coats (purple, blue, red, pink etc) but I'm more a traditionalist and would wear dark coloured coat.

I have a jacket in a very subtle grey check which I wear if the weather's decent, with black trousers, linen ones in summer.

In winter I wear my coat, which isn't black but a very dark purple.

I have stuff earmarked in my wardrobe. Mainly because I have ageing parents and death happens, and I think in the midst of the haze of grief, the last thing I want to think about or would be able to think about is clothes. I don't have a black coat and I'm reluctant to invest as I'd never wear it other than funerals. If I ever see a lovely one at a bargain I will buy.

Nothing specific but I have a lot of smart black and grey so I can put something together pretty easily.

It’s not compulsory to wear black at
funerals, OP. The important thing is just to be there, to support the bereaved and to say your own farewell and prayers for the departed.
Some families, particularly where the deceased was young, ask mourners to wear anything BUT black, and to see the service as a celebration of their life, rather than grief at their death.
Some of the people who comforted me at DH’s funeral were not dressed at all in regulation black.

Yes, Karen millen wool crepe altered to fit perfectly. I like to be prepared.

Grey Boden dress
Black Evans soft blazer

I think I've worn the same navy dress with small, pale pinkish flower pattern with a navy blazer to every funeral I've been to since I bought it in about 1990. (Randomly none can have been in cold weather). If it was cold I'd just use black trousers and whatever top seemed apt. I guess sober but not sombre is generally fine.

A family member was very poorly a couple of years ago and we knew that he was close to the end. I bought a phase eight dress when he was ill, knowing I would need it at fairly short notice. I felt awful buying it when he was still alive knowing why I was buying it, but I knew I'd need it. I have worn it at five funerals since. It is a plain black knitted Becca dress from Phase Eight which I wore with black tights, shoe boots and a long silver pendant. It works fine for work too with patterned tights.

Its awful really, I'm 34 and need a funeral dress my last one was my cousin age 32

I have a dark navy tailored dress which I wear with boots in winter, shoes/sandals if it’s warmer. Also a dark navy wool coat for winter. Sadly they are worn with increasing frequency.