What dresses are good for slim (but flabby) people? I'm a pear shape

[Elmo311]

Hi all,
Please don't be mean to me! I'm 38 weeks pregnant atm, and having a c section in just over a week. In june i have to go to a wedding (there is no way i can't go)

I have always hated wearing dresses, i am generally a size 10/12 on top but a 14 on the bottom with small breasts. I have always found it hard to get a dress because if it fits my hips its too big up top and vice versa.

I am also flabby. Like. Bad. And god knows what I'm gonna be like once baby is out! I've only gained 5kg this pregnancy, same as my previous one but I'm so anxious about having to find a dress.

I hate my arms, and my legs have cellulite. I am soft all over and although i will work out after i am cleared to it wont be enough to feel good at the wedding.

I know it's not MY wedding so it shouldn't matter but i hate being somewhere and feeling so down on myself that i don't enjoy it.

I could wear a maxi dress, but again i hate my arms.
Ideally i would go in a Mr Blobby costume as that's probably the only way I'd feel comfortable 🤣

Any suggestions...or anyone who can relate? I guess maybe i sound too caught up in how i look and with an 11 month old and newborn people may be understanding....

Why do you have to wear a dress?

I would wear a jumpsuit.
Fabulous earrings.

Get your self a new bra, hair done, eyebrows done, comfy shoes.

Job done.

@Calzone never worn one...wouldn't it show of my saggy flabby bum though?!

I'm a pear with very similar insecurities, I've always found wrap dresses and tea dresses to be the most flattering and work with non standard measurements. I have 16 inches difference between waist and hips so a lot of things look ridiculous or simply don't fit. Look for one with sleeves or get a nice coverup for arms?

Not at all.

Go to Marks as the quality is much better.

Honestly I love them. Wear some big knickers to flatten your tummy if you need to.

Bright flats and bag.

You will look awesome.

I’m a similar shape and also wear a lot of dresses. Have a faux wrap dress that was brilliant for smart postnatal dressing (and easy to feed or express from too) as the ruching at the front hid a multitude of sins.
Closet have a lot of pear friendly dresses and the dress I have from them is small on the bust.
www.closetlondon.com/clothing/all-dresses/wrap-dresses.html

I relate! Those 50s halter neck big skirted dresses are the most flattering for the body shape you describe. Can be worn with a little cardi / bolero or jacket

https://www.google.com/search?q=50s+halter+dress&client=firefox-b&prmd=ivn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjsdv536rhAhVZTxUIHTtDAA4QQ_AUoAXoECAwQAQ&biw=375&bih=545

I love this stories dress too.
www.stories.com/en_gbp/sale/all-sale/product.velvet-wrap-dress-pink.0638091001.html

Skater or tea dress.

With a fine knit crew neck cardigan from Oasis , wear rolled up to the elbow if your arms feel too on show.

Tea dresses yes, but wrap dresses tend to emphasise the pear proportions. Dark trousers and a light coloured boat neck floaty blouse would be flattering.

Thank you all for being so nice! I'm glad you understand me!
I will try out the suggestions on here and see if i look half decent in any of them. I really appreciate everyone posting links too.

Thank you x

Do you have good legs? I would consider a forgiving, flowy skirt, any length from knee to maxi, with some sort of elegant collarless blouse loosely tucked in. That way you don’t show your arms, your waist is gently defined, you’ll be comfortable, and you won’t have the nightmare that is a dress that doesn’t quite fit half of you.

@pigeonofdoom
I have always hated dresses as can ever find anything I like on the high street but this link is amazing, exactly my style: www.closetlondon.com/clothing/all-dresses/wrap-dresses.html Thank you!

I’m pear shaped and I don’t find those traditional jersey wrap dresses flattering at all. I think they just emphasize my hips and add volume where I don’t need it. I feel all swing-ey and mahoosively hippy in them.

I bought this dress recently, size down, and it’s good. I also bought this dress from Topshop. It’s really nice on. Defines the waist, skims the hips. Size down and get a different belt, the fabric belt with it is rubbish. Open the buttons on both, looks a bit meh with the buttons closed.

Both dresses would be breastfeeding friendly too.