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When you wear an outfit that just makes you feel blah...

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GravityFalls · 04/03/2019 18:36

So today my outfit of choice was: navy cord above-the-knee skirt (cute), dark brown tights and dark tan Chelsea boots (this all looks very nice together), then a white scoop neck top and coral coloured cardigan.

It was the last two things that did me. The top is so annoying as hardly any bras work underneath it and it cost more than I’d usually pay for a jersey top (Pure Collection) as I was going for the buy-better-not-more thing and I’m determined to find a way I can wear it. So although I had a cardi on top and you couldn’t see it, the neckline felt “off” all day. And then, how does anyone ever wear a cardigan over a top with sleeves? It would NOT sit right, the neck kept bunching weirdly, the arms weren’t right all day and it just looked odd around the waistline. As well as that the whole outfit didn’t look cute and preppy but so unbelievably bland - I’d hoped the coral would lift the whole thing but it just looked awful and I’d chosen the wrong lipstick. Of course this all happened when I was rushing out of the house and had no time to change but it depressed me all day!

Tell me I’m not the only one who chooses to disasterous, but disappointing outfits and ruins the day for themselves?

OP posts:
RickOShay · 04/03/2019 18:45

I do this too. Your outfit sounds lovely though Grin
Could you sacrifice the Pure Collection top? it sounds as though that was the main culprit.

GemmeFatale · 04/03/2019 18:52

Spent cost fallacy. You wanted a better item, this isn’t the one for you. Pass it on, charity it or eBay it. It will irritate you every time you wear it and it’s not quite right.

GemmeFatale · 04/03/2019 18:53

Sunk cost

It’s not my day today

SurgeHopper · 04/03/2019 19:10

Same here

I got dressed in the dark, realised when I got to work that the sweater I'm wearing is all bobbly! I look like a bag lady! And I'm on auntie flow so feel like a right scruff

origamiunicorn · 04/03/2019 19:51

This was me in work last Friday. I thought I'd wear my shirt "french tucked" in my skinny jeans. In my mirror at home it looked good, got into work and in the toilet mirrors I could tell my stomach had bloated up and the tuck made me look like a satsuma from the side, ugh. I had to untuck it and walk around with a stupid creasy shirt all day!

Michaelbaubles · 04/03/2019 20:50

It makes me feel all clumsy and grubby too for some reason.

I feel like ditching all button cardigans. Edge the edge ones are the only ones I wear where I don’t feel constrained/bundled/like things are in the wrong place. Maybe I’m just the wrong shape for them or something!

foxsbiscuit · 04/03/2019 20:53

It really affects my confidence if I have an eugh outfit day.

CremeDeSudo · 04/03/2019 20:59

I'm like this too. Glad I'm not the only one!

thebabessavedme · 04/03/2019 22:22

I always have a bad day when wearing brown.

thebabessavedme · 04/03/2019 22:23

I dont buy brown now, ever.

Notcontent · 04/03/2019 22:27

Oh, I have this sometimes!

Sometimes it’s the look of something or sometimes it’s also how it feels! For example, I have a leather skirt from Whistles - it’s above the knee but not too short, but when I sit down it keeps slipping up until you can nearly see my crotch and I keep having to pull it down... very annoying and I think I may need to ditch the skirt... was wearing it last week at work and it I didn’t feel comfortable at all.

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 05/03/2019 04:09

I sometimes have this where I buy something and love it, it looks great and I can't wait to wear it. Then a day comes when I actually want to leave the house in it and suddenly it looks terrible? I thibk it's because I make the mistake of trying on new things barefoot and not bothering to try with different shoes, then I find the ones I thought were going to go perfectly somehow don't and I end up hating the outfit.

Auldspinster · 05/03/2019 11:56

I once had a complete stranger come up to me in a shop and tell me i'll never get a man wearing brown.

MikeUniformMike · 05/03/2019 13:01

Agree with pp about the top.
I'd eBay it.

MayFayner · 05/03/2019 14:06

babydarling you’ve just described my entire clothes-buying life 😩

CountFosco · 05/03/2019 16:25

OK, so everyone does this sometimes. The way to avoid it is to invest time and energy in trying out outfits when you're not in a rush. Spend a Sunday morning or whatever trying out different combinations, take photos of the outfits you like then getting drssed for work (in outfits you've already tested) is easy.

As far as sleeves under cardigans go you need to hold the sleeve of the top in your hand as you put on the cardigan to get it into the right position. But if the neckline is annoying even with no cardigan get rid. If the top is OK with the right bra and no cardigan keep for the summer.

LaPampa · 05/03/2019 17:26

I often feel like this ... slightly awkward and annoyed. I still need to find my style but at pushing 40 I feel I should have already found it!

dudsville · 05/03/2019 17:36

This thread has given me the giggles in a sympathetic way!

My worst outfit was, back when I was a size 10. I had a fabulous, interestingly cut tweed skirt. I can't remember the top I wore with it but I wore ivory coloured argan style knit tights. Why? I looked like an extra from a poor budget period film about Ireland. (I love Ireland with all my heart, have many ancestors from there, please do not hate me)

Unbelievable18 · 05/03/2019 18:24

And the rare day I don't feel awkward and annoyed in what I'm wearing (so true!) and I feel like I look semi-okay at least, I catch sight of myself in a full length pub/changing room mirror and think oh God who was I kidding! I am a 5ft 3 size 6-8 with size 6 feet that look like BigFoot's at the end of my legs and nothing seems to look good on me!

TipseyTorvey · 05/03/2019 18:27

I never feel pulled together in a cardi. I tend to wear fitted jackets or those soft blazers to add some structure. I have seen some women look amazing in a cardi but I think usually they are slim with small boobs. Given I'm a ff I need smarter lines or I just look matronly.

DurhamDurham · 05/03/2019 18:32

Happened to me yesterday 😭
I had a job interview and dressed on an outfit I've worn before and liked. I took a pic to send my daughters to get approval (which I'll attach)
I got to the interview and happened to see another applicant and she looked fabulous in a bright green embroidered dress and heels. I suddenly felt dowdy and dull. I didn't do well and find out tomorrow whether I've been successful.
I bet the woman in the green dress gets it.

When you wear an outfit that just makes you feel blah...
LaPampa · 05/03/2019 19:29

@durhamdurham I bet she saw you and felt the same. We always think the other person looks bettter! Good luck x

Thedarklady · 05/03/2019 19:35

Gravityfalls, that sounds like too many colours in one outfit - navy, tan, dark brown, coral and white. They don't all go together too.

Durham, you look great.

sirmione16 · 05/03/2019 19:49

Yep . This is even worse when you picture an outfit in your head being amazing, think you've planned your outfit extra 10 minutes spare in morning - yay! - then you put it on and look like a potato. With no time to change. I hate it.

DurhamDurham · 05/03/2019 19:58

Thank you LaPampa and Thedarklady I liked it before I left the house, it was just when I get there. They do say comparison is the thief of joy and that was clearly the case with the green dress woman 😀

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