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Teenager, hair clippers and bleach. Help please

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GatherlyGal · 01/03/2019 08:26

So DS's friend has helpfully buzzed most of his hair off and bleached what's left.

Actual cutting looks ok but he's so dark that his hair if more orange / yellow than blonde. Is there a quick or easy fix?

Financially he's a nightmare and already owes us loads of future allowance so I'm not keen on spending ££££ at hairdressers.

To be fair to him he says he doesn't mind the colour but I'm sure he's prefer it a bit blonder.

Any ideas?

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DizziLizzy · 01/03/2019 08:37

If he doesn't mind the colour he can live with it for a couple of weeks and then re-buzz when long enough. Out of interest how old is your DS?

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GatherlyGal · 01/03/2019 09:05

He's 14 Dizzy friend is 16.

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Gingerkittykat · 01/03/2019 10:19

If he bleaches it again then it will go lighter.

Alternative is to cover it up with another colour.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 01/03/2019 10:23

Purple toner shampoo?

CMOTDibbler · 01/03/2019 10:27

It just needs more bleaching - the Bleach London kit is good

steppemum · 01/03/2019 10:32

well, he has chosen to have a home done hair experiment. It hasn't worked.

he seems to be shruggin his shoulders and saying, it's fine, don't mind.
You seem to want to correct it.

I would leave him to it. If he is bothered/upset by it, then I might step in to help, but in this case I would leave him to it. It is important to learn that you don't always get bailed out when you do stupid stuff. Hair grows quickly too.

needthisthread · 01/03/2019 10:33

He is a teenager who has said he doesn't mind the colour. Why are you trying to interfere?

Couchpotato3 · 01/03/2019 10:35

I'd be more concerned about the financial nightmare than the colour of his hair. Surely that's the bit you should be sorting out?

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GatherlyGal · 01/03/2019 11:53

Thanks all. I've asked him again and he says he's ok with the colour so that's that. Not sure how things will be back at school next week but time will tell.

Wasn't actually looking for parenting advice - he's had a very difficult year and his mental health isn't great. The spending is one of many things that are a challenge at the moment and I was just concerned that if he gets teased at school I'm not sure how it will affect him.

I do agree through that bailing him out doesn't send the right message.

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GatherlyGal · 16/03/2019 19:54

So this weekend same friend has pierced DS's ear!

Oh the teenage years.

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edwardcullensotherwoman · 16/03/2019 20:35

Good grief OP, do the friend's parents know he's doing these things? I'm sure that a professional wouldn't be allowed to pierce at 14 without parental consent, so this would be a major issue for me.
How did he do it? Might be worth an appointment for a nurse to check it and advise on avoiding infection etc. And serious words about what he's allowing other people to do to him.

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GatherlyGal · 16/03/2019 20:41

DS cajoled him into it. Looking back DS was hanging around with us in the lounge probably trying to tell / ask us but he obviously couldn't and then he went of to his room and they did it.

I've given them a talking to. The friend is sheepish DS is very defiant. My ear my decision etc.

Fucking hell my kid has transformed in the last 12 months.

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prettywhiteguitar · 16/03/2019 21:03

Hum I pierced my own ears with an ice lolly and shaved my hair off, I think at 15. I’m perfectly normal now if you don’t freak too much he will grow out of doing stuff like that

prettywhiteguitar · 16/03/2019 21:04

Silver spray for the ear

BlessYourCottonSocks · 16/03/2019 21:29

I was a teenager in the late 70s and every single person I knew got a mate to pierce their ear. I didn't know anyone who actually went to a jewellers. There wasn't one in our small town.

It was 'manly' to do it with a compass (in a Maths lesson).

Teens do stupid things - he'll grow out of it.

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GatherlyGal · 16/03/2019 21:33

Thanks bless and pretty. I was upset for a minute or 2 and then calmed down. The talking to was calm and measured.

What is silver spray please? Will it help with the (probably) inevitable infection?

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BlessYourCottonSocks · 17/03/2019 23:10

To hijack your thread utterly, would it be wrong of me to leave home forever because my 14 yo DS is an utter tit?

I genuinely don't think I can cope with the sullen arguments.

If he were a DP/DH I'd have walked on the relationship. Is it very bad to just abandon a 5ft 10" toddler?

Inliverpool1 · 18/03/2019 06:31

Ive said being with my 19 year old is like being in an abusive relationship. Nobody else would you take this shit from, nobody

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GatherlyGal · 18/03/2019 10:15

Bless it's only fair he should leave if he's the one being a tit.

inliverpool i hear you - I think I'm desensitised to being spoken to like shit. If its stroppy and a bit rude I mostly let it go. Luckily we haven't quite reached abusive levels. Yet.

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averythinline · 18/03/2019 14:44

mmm my 2nd/3rd ear peircings by needle/compass in toilets at school (think the blood all over my shirt a bit of a give away....bizarrly didnt get infected but did use lots surgical spirit)
and the damage that can be done with neat peroxide and a toothbrush as highlights......(with sun in for extra hair health!)

as long as not too short for school will grow out quick - maybe dont suggest covering up with black dye= wrecked bathroom and green hair! best to just leave if he can....

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