Do I need to wear black to a funeral?

[LaurieFairyCake]

I don't know anyone going and my best coat is a pale pink - I wear this with a dark navy and pink print wrap dress.

I don't have a black coat and I suspect the bright red coat or the very pale grey with a pink floral lining is worse.

It's a traditional church funeral and I don't want to stand out - will I really look obvious in the pale pink (almost nude) coat?

I think most people do wear black or dark colours unless otherwise specified

Would think the grey is fine, not disrespectful. Just don’t have the lining on show too much of it makes you uncomfortable.
These conventions matter less and less. FWIW, I don’t want a funeral but if they ignore my wishes they can wear grass skirts and flip flops for all I care.

The thing with the grey is that I need to roll the sleeves up which shows the lining as I've got short arms. I've checked the weather and it's going to be 11 degrees, possibly too cold for a cardigan (I've a very sober long black cardigan.

I'm going to put a pic up of the coats

These 2

Well scratch that, neither of them fit across my boobs (got pmt) so it's got to be the cardigan or possibly my navy raincoat - I was discounting that as it rustles a bit but I can take it off in the service

Nothing coming up there.
Did you love/care for the deceased? Do you think what would be important to them was that you are there or what you are wearing?if you think they wouldn’t care, really wouldn’t worry what anyone else thinks. To buy a new coat you maybe can’t afford isn’t necessary.
If you’re still worried, borrow from someone else, pick something up in a charity shop (all of my coats are from charities, they’re very nice!) or wear your cardigan, you won’t be outside for very long.
Hope the day isn’t too difficult.

There you go, navy, perfect.

Yes, very much

It's going to be a difficult day which is why I'm obsessing about fucking coats

People where whatever cost they have - but as the weather is mild, can you not just leave it in the car?

I've got a long journey by train/taxi and standing around in the cold

Few people have a funeral outfit up their sleeves nowadays. I went to one recently, definitely lots of different colours in coats. but most people accessorised them down, so I wore a long red coat but with black knee length boots a big draped black scarf & black gloves & bag and then bought a very dark dress which I will wear loads and covered with a dark cardigan so I could take my coat off during the service. I did feel self conscious arriving and was relieved to realised that not every one had run out to buy a new coat!

My deceased relative would have been appalled at the waste of me buying another smart winter coat.

The grey looks fine, I think. Most funerals I've been to recently people don't all wear black, no matter how traditional or formal it is. You making that journey and being there will be the important thing.

A dark pashmina over the grey would be nice.

Lfc i hope that you can find an outfit that you will be happy to wear at the funeral. Would you be able to borrow a dark colour coat from a friend? If not then your navy rain coat with a dark pasmina that can be used as a wrap over the cardigan, for warmth i am thinking.

If you were my friend i would be saying help yourself to my wardrobe.

I am so sorry for your loss, i hope that the sun will be shining for the final farewell of your loved one.

I don't own any black clothes. My funeral outfit is the same as my interview outfit, a dark green wool dress and a camel coloured coat.