Cosy vs sexy

[mellongoose]

This is a question for evenings at home. DD has gone to bed and I finally collapse on the sofa in front of the fire for a couple of hours before going to bed. Normally I find myself in cosy pyjamas and a fluffy dressing gown....comfy, but not sexy.

I'd like to be wearing something that feels as nice and warm but is a bit more of a turn on for DH. Clearly, sexy underwear and silk kimonos are not warm and cosy in the least!! I'm in danger of being old before my time.

What is the happy medium?!!!

Flattering pyjamas? Stuff that fits you and is in decent condition, rather than holey, raggedy type pyjamas.
Personally I think it's okay to wear comfies, so long as that isn't all your partner ever sees - I think people should have regular date nights where they make a bit of an effort.
I tend to wear leggings and long tops - not so scruffy that I'd feel embarrassed if someone came around, but not uncomfortable. If money was no object I'd have expensive cashmere and silk leisure wear.

Dump the dressing gown and wear a snuggly jumper instead

Silk PJs?

The pyjamas that I class as nice apparently arnt sexy pjs! So I can’t remember the last time I looked sexy for my Partner. He used to mention it a lot but now he doesn’t mention it, ever! To be fair my underwear isn’t sexy either, I’m actually surprised my partner hasn’t left me as I when we met I had makeup done all the time, hair extensions, sexy underwear and used to like to party. Now I drink twice a year and wear Bridget Jones pants with my fluffy pjs and dressing gown! When I write it down I think my gosh I should make more effort, then I remind myself that my partner can’t even put his dirty plate in the dishwasher after a meal so once he learns to clean up after himself I may consider looking sexy for him 😁

Silk pyjamas and a really soft light blue or pink cardigan. Mohair or similar.

My mate had such a cardigan once and had a 100% pulling rate in it.

Ha ha @Pringle2628 !!!

Ok so sexy some nights and comfy others seems to be the way to go. With the best will in the world I'm afraid DH doesn't get turned on by jumpers or cardigans, no matter how nice I think they are!

.. second the cardi, and I have discovered Laperla pj tops as well, they are warm and have a bit of lace to them, I purchased a long sleeved one in a loose design.. coupled with a long mohair cardigan. Recently bought kimono on eBay.. the challenge is to get in it around the house!

On a side note, Going through a major clear out.. I ‘‘tis terrible how many items I have...

I’d like a pulling cardigan, I think. Where would one source such a thing?

Nice silk pyjamas in winter and a rug over your legs or a long merino cardigan. I bought some beautiful pyjamas from Hush this year that are silk. I feel sexy in them and they wash brilliantly.
In summer I fake tan and wear little satin shorts with cami vest round the house. If I want to cover up I put on a loose shirt, invariably his, and tuck in to my shorts at the front. I think it looks pretty casual but also sexy.

The Rosie collection at M&S have gorgeous silky PJs

pulling cardigan (bit steep for - - shagging-- lazing around in even in the sale)

Next do some lovely pjs with lace on them. I bought a pair in navy and a pair in black for this very reason. They’re really comfy and look great. Maybe not sexy, but very flattering.

What does your DH wear? Is it sexy?

I've just (nervously) Googled sexy pajamas and found these and lots of others at shein.co.uk

Good price but obviously I haven't tried any so no idea re quality or size.

White Company good if you can find any in the sale!

I do hope he's making a similar effort to dress sexy 🙄

Thankfully my dh isn't as shallow as requiring me to be in sexy pjs!! I'm happy with my comfys as is he

Have a look on Oysho

I go from wearing Agent Provocateur one evening to wearing chintzy/ plaid dressing gowns and or PJs the next .

I have this obsession with all things chintzy and smocked . It took poor DH some time to get his head around my current love for Loretta Caponi dressing gowns. They are very nonna chic and even these don't usually turn him off always have nice lace undies under

I sometimes think nice cotton pjs are far sexier than Silk ones, which looks terrible once they get creased.
So for me a middle ground doesn't exist.

I think pjs from Lunya are suuuuuper soft and comfy but as they're silky also could be quite sexy

Mookatron - sounds like your mate already had them back at hers with her Pj's and pink cardi on, hence the 100% pulling rate?

I'm also do Dr ting what your dh wears op.

Maybe I'm doing this all wrong, but if you want to be sexy can't you just take your pajamas off?! I'm yet to meet the man who, faced with a naked woman who is attracted to, says 'no I don't want to because I have recently seen you wearing a dressing gown'

It's only partly about doing this for DH. Please don't go down that road...we are very happy.

I recently suffered a late pregnancy loss at 20 weeks. We haven't had sex for a while. I'm 42 and the experience has made me go from feeling like a young fertile woman to an old lady before my time. I didn't want to drip feed but hopefully this explains why I'm trying to please my man...as well as me.

Warm and comfy as well as sexy seems to be hard to come by but not impossible! Thanks for your input 👍

Off-one-shoulder top with snog-fit pj bottoms - avoid flowers & patterns, go for plain contrast colours that compliment you.

sorry to hear that op I hope to start feeling better about everything soon.
I like baggy-ish bottoms with a tight long sleeved top (soft thermal is nice - even my mum's Damart catalogue comes up trumps) in winter, no bra and no buttons. When I wear this style my dp notices my gorgeous breasts, and it seems to make my stomach look flatter than it really is (deluded).

Or I might wear tighter leggings style bottoms and he will appreciate my bum.

But a lot of the time the effect is ruined as I walk around with a massive blanket wrapped round me a la Obi Wan Kenobi.