Botox - do you tell people?

[BlueSatsuma]

Just that really!

Someone asked me recently if I’d had it as my face was so smooth.

Not a close friend, just a person I know from school gates.

I get it between eyes, not full face, not that there’s anything wrong with that if it’s your thing.

Was a bit gobsmacked!

What do you say, if when people ask? Is it rude to ask someone if they get Botox?

I often get asked as I have a very smooth forehead (in 60). It’s just been the genetic lottery for me but I’m always a bit WTAF when people ask. I’d never dream of asking. I suspect people don’t believe me when I say no. Tell them what you want, but I think you are entitled to your privacy if that’s what you prefer.

No, as its none of their business,i have quite a smooth forehead too,i have had botox in crows feet lines, but never needed it in forehead
If anyone asked me i would say no anyway,
Why should you tell anyone,its a private matter

Nope.
I get Botox and a small amount of lip filler.
I do get the odd question about lips after I have them topped up but never tell

Why not tell? I am perfectly happy to admit to Botox and other cosmetic things I have done (laser eye surgery, Invisalign, teeth whitening, varicose vein removal...).

I think most people can tell when you've had Botox hence why some people ask.

I haven't had it yet but plan to, and I intend to confess if asked, because honestly I think we kind of owe it to each other.

Not great for upholding unrealistic expectations of female beauty / ageing otherwise is it?

I think it's a bit shitty to deny it. I agree with Meladeso, we need to help each other out instead of letting people think they look haggard next to you.

Yes, I think it’s absolutely fine for humans to work on their appearance (looking good is great for general well being) but it’s not absolutely fine at all to pretend that it all comes about naturally if it doesn’t.

My step-son (35) has been telling me all about the botox and fillers he's had done - eyebrows, lips and forehead.

It all depends who is asking,im not really bothered ,but someone once asked me and was very catty about it, saying how could i afford botox,
I stopped smoking 5 years ago, and to me botox is my reward, from what i have saved not smoking
Spending my money on something that makes me feel better is my business, no one elses
I am not well off, and a pensioner, but it felt like i should just not be so vain, and grow old gracefully, from her tone, so put me off saying anything now

I'd never ask anyone because it seems too personal but surely it's usually pretty obvious?

No unless I'm asked out right...rarely.

I don't have it (can't afford it but would if I could) and have wondered about other people but would never ask. I think it's personal and don't think anyone owes anyone any information about their personal business just to make them feel better about looking older or whatever. What a weird idea. I'm slim but I don't owe it to fat people to go round telling them how hard I work at it.

@mistermagpie
If someone paid you a compliment on your figure, and asked if it was an effort / commitment to maintain it, would you say no?

I think denying it just makes you look silly. Does anyone remember when Victoria Beckham kept denying she had a boob job, even though she so obviously had (no woman's boobs look like 2 oranges naturally)? It came across as much worse than if she had just been open about it. No one will believe your denials, they will just think your a bit of a tit for trying to pretend it is natural when it isn't.

I think its best to admit it, although thst doesnt take away the fact that the person who asked is incredibly rude.

I think you can always spot it, even if its well done. Not at first glance but as soon as someone speaks or becomes animated (smiling, laughing, squinting in the sun etc.) then its fairly obvious as the human eye has a knack for spotting when sonething’s off or not quite the norm.

I think its fine if youre young but post forty, I do think it looks odd to have a completely smooth face and plump lips and cheeks while your eyes, neck and hands tell a different story. Theres no hiding years of experience in the eyes.

Yes, it is definitely rude to ask and I never would, but if you are asked I think it is silly to deny. I have seem some grim lip fillers but would never comment.

I think it’s rude to ask.

I thought the point was that you could spot bad botox but not good botox. So you’re basically saying someone has bad botox as it’s so obvious. I agree with unobtainable on 40+ women, the disconnect between the smooth forehead and the rest of the face is obvious a mile away.

You should still admit it though!

Never had botox (i would definitley not rule it out!) My forehead doesnt move when i raise my eyebrows (im early 30s) and people.still ask me all the time- people at work are convinced i lie about having not had anything done but i would be happy to tell people.i had if they asked and i had

Not everyone who has botox looks to have a frozen shiny forehead
I have very little and not in my forehead, just around crows feet, to look less tired, the rest of my face is normal i dont have many wrinkles