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Dating again after divorce - is this dress suitable?

36 replies

wonderwoman1981 · 22/11/2018 21:35

It's been a year since seperating from my husband and forever since I last went on a date!! The stress has caused me to shed a stone and I am reluctantly back on the dating scene. I love this dress, but I am not sure if it might be too much in the red. I love it in black also, maybe that would be better. Opinions please ladies...

www.zoevine.com/collections/pencil/products/neck-wiggle-dress

www.zoevine.com/collections/dresses/products/copy-of-caroline-scoop-neck-wiggle-dress

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Mummyshark2018 · 23/11/2018 20:36

It's fab! I love it! You should definitely buy it! Only thing I would say is find out where you're going, as turning up in a grotty pub with this would be a waste! Enjoy!

wonderwoman1981 · 24/11/2018 16:58

I ordered them both - But I think I will wear the black with red lipstick for the date. Now I just need to find some leopard shoes...

Thankyounext - I agree that I will clast with the decor in Sketch!

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wonderwoman1981 · 27/11/2018 15:40

halfwitpicker - No way!! I spend way too much time on mumsnet as it is. I would get nothing done.

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OHolyNightOwl · 27/11/2018 16:33

Love the dress, his eyes will pop out of his skull! Grin I also love Sketch, it is my very favourite restaurant in London!
Enjoy it all! Have some grapefruit bread with caramel butter for me. [swoon]

Villanelley · 27/11/2018 16:49

The black looks more expensive, the red looks more WOWZERS!

Get both, they're fantastic. Wink

TellItLikeItReallyIs · 27/11/2018 19:14

The dress is awesome - definitly buy the dress.

BUT whether to wear it on a first date depends on the context because the dress is very seductive and full on. It's a dress to impress and that is obvious.

You don't say more than he's a friend of a friend or how you know him/how long you've known him/context of the date/ your normal dress style/how well he knows you.

SO:

  1. If this is not your normal style, I'd avoid it for a first date because it is so seductive you are unlikely to feel comfortable and relaxed.
  1. If this is a near blind date/date zero and you don't really know him, I'd avoid it because it will look too try hard and frankly might scare him off if he turns up in smart jeans.
  1. If this more of a "we've known each other for ages, I like you, you like me, big build up and tonight's the night" type date, then I'd go for it. It shows you are trying to impress him and are making an effort.

Really there are three key factors - one is about you: - are you going to feel comfortable in this dress at this stage of your developing relationship?

one is about your relationship to date with him - is this a test the water date with no expectation? or is this much more we know we like each other date?

and the other is about the message you are sending at an early stage: is it too try hard at this stage given your "relationship" to date? Do you want to have some where to go in terms of pulling out all the stops to look even more spectacular if this is just an early stage?do you normally dress in this style so that it wouldn't be unusual? Or would it be exceptional for you and would he know it?

Don't overthink any of this. Your gut will tell you whether to wear it or not.

FellSwoop · 27/11/2018 20:16

That, my friend, is an outstanding dress...in both colours. I'd go black for a first date.

Delatron · 27/11/2018 22:11

Agree withtellitlikeitis whilst it’s a fab dress, you need to be comfortable in it and it should be a style you usually wear.

I used to dress right down for first dates (rightly or wrongly). Especially if you’ve never met him before, you may not want to ‘wow’ him that much.

Nothing wrong with the dress though! Just whether it’s a first date dress.

raisinsraisins · 28/11/2018 09:07

I also agree with telkitlikeitis

You don’t know what your date is like. I’d wear a slightly more casual and looser fit dress, and save this dress for the second or third date.

Marnimajor · 28/11/2018 19:28

Va va voom - gorgeous!!

starcrossedseahorse · 28/11/2018 21:10

Black, red lipstick - he will be suitably impressed. Wink

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