Dress opinions please

[MozzchopsThirty]

I have bought both of these for a very posh Thai dinner.
Dress code is 'ladies must be elegant and wear appropriate footwear'

The long one I've bought in navy with silver shoes & bag, it is stunning and well cut and flattering
The shorter one I thought might be more appropriate for Thai dinner, in the heat. I would wear rose gold shoes & bag

Another factor is that the boyfriend is wearing white jeans and a shirt and I don't want to look hideously overdressed

Here is the other one

Second one

If you are concerned about being overdressed then the second one, definitely. The first one is lovely but pretty dressy. If you find every other woman is wearing evening gowns then you can wear the first and maybe your boyfriend then should wear something smarter.

They are both beautiful. I would go with the first as I think it is more elegant but in keeping with your boyfriend's outfit the second might be less formal and therefore the better option.

Elegant is difficult. Second one is too informal to be elegant. First one has bared shoulder, which can be an issue (to some) what kind of age is the inveter? Would they class covered shoulders as elegant? Juts how posh can a Thai restraint get? Micheline star type posh?

Just seen boyfriends outfit. Do the men not have a dress code? Then I'd go with second if he's dressing down in jeans.

Second one. You'll look a right pillock in the floor-length black gown if your partner is rocking up in white jeans.

Floor-length black gown = Oscars siren
White jeans and a shirt = 90s Ibiza club DJ with over-gelled hair

It's at the mandarin Oriental in Bangkok
Large party of about 100 guests

I know 🤣🤣 when he showed me I just pulled a face!!!

Men's code is shirt & trousers and closed shoes

I wanted to post my other dress but apparently you're only allowed 6 per day

Ummmmmm, I'd seriously consider having words with your BF about wearing jeans with that dress code!!!

Agree with others, both dresses are lovely and tbh I'd wear whichever you feel more comfortable in... However it's the Mandarin Oriental, so I'd be all over that floor-length one personally!

Saying all that^, I'm always more comfortable being over-dressed than under-dressed. I think it's a lot easier to pull off being over-dressed than the other way around.

I just don't want to try too hard
Me & boyf are deffo not posh