Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Style and beauty

Looking for style advice? Chat all about it here. For the latest discounts on fashion and beauty, sign up for Mumsnet Moneysaver emails.

Original poster

When some copies of you

28 replies

rightknockered · 12/09/2018 16:48

And then accuses you of copying her. There is a school mum that copies of me quite blatantly and then tells her friends, within ear shot of me as I walk by, that I'm copying of her and they should all look. She always wears what ever she sees me wearing that morning and has it on by school pick up time.
It's mostly amusing. But weird. What would you do?

OP posts:
Blondielongie · 12/09/2018 16:51

There's a saying that imitation is a form of flattery (can't remember)

Why don't you comment that she must get through a lot of washing changing inbetween pick up

SillyLittleBiscuit · 12/09/2018 16:51

Change clothes before pick up time

BigBlueBubble · 12/09/2018 16:57

This has happened to me before. A trans lady at work obviously liked my style and started to buy the same or similar clothes to everything in my wardrobe. I appreciate that she probably just thought I looked nice and perhaps needed inspiration for how to dress, but it was uncomfortable when people started to comment that I dressed like her!

In the end I started shopping with obscure online shops and buying vintage because it was more difficult to copy. But it really only stopped when she decided to become a man again.

InezGraves · 12/09/2018 17:04

What on earth are you wearing that is so distinctive that someone notices and magically manages to acquire the same outfit the same day?

Solution, dress like this on the school run?

When some copies of you
bluestarthread · 12/09/2018 17:12

PJs and slippers tomorrow then!

SuperstarDJ · 12/09/2018 17:33

What on earth are you wearing that is so distinctive that someone notices and magically manages to acquire the same outfit the same day?

This ^

Where do you get your clothes from OP?

MoltonSilver · 12/09/2018 19:08

That's really weird.

Change between drop off and pick up tomorrow to throw her off track.

Blondielongie · 12/09/2018 21:24

What are you gonna do Op?

sunsunsunsunsun · 12/09/2018 22:16

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
rightknockered · 12/09/2018 22:16

Honestly, I just ordinary clothes, I wear what ever is suitable for that day. The same thing happened last year until she got bored. It feels strange and stalkery. She now waves her hair and wears it like mine, which is a new thing. I wouldn't even notice her if she didn't stand in front of me and obviously look me up and down. She once asked me where I bought my clothes, I don't understand why, I hardly dress in a unique manner, but I probably wear clothes in a way that suits my body shape, and yes, maybe I put things together well.
I'm slightly stressed because tomorrow I'm meeting old friends for lunch and shopping in central London, and want to wear something smarter than jeans and trainers. I know she will look me up and down again, I find it unnerving.

OP posts:
Easynow · 12/09/2018 22:20

Get changed after drop off.

LuckyDiamond · 12/09/2018 22:24

You’ve said you wear ordinary clothes and don’t dress in a unique manner. There’s bound to be others with similar dress sense if that’s the case.

Go dressed as Bjork next week, test your theory.

Original poster
rightknockered · 12/09/2018 22:29

I have considered whether I'm just imagining it, but it's that she changes into similar outfits every time, without fail. If I wear a short skirt, she will turn up wearing a short skirt; if i wear jeans, she will do the same. She has trainers, and boots like mine, even the same coat, that I had to stop wearing because a coat can be your whole outfit in winter.

OP posts:
Original poster
rightknockered · 12/09/2018 22:30

I'm thinking of wearing a leopard print midi skirt tomorrow, see what happens. Not seen anyone wearing one on the school run

OP posts:
IdblowJonSnow · 12/09/2018 22:31

U could have some real fun with this op! Grin

Judydreamsofhorses · 12/09/2018 22:39

Could she just have very similar taste? One of my close friends and I frequently buy the same things, because our tastes are pretty much identical. We live in different cities now, and if I post a photo on Instagram she will often comment that she has that top, skirt, whatever, and vice versa. She is my absolute favourite person to shop with - we can do a visual sweep of a store in 90 seconds, then simultaneously say “next!”.

MenaMecca · 12/09/2018 22:40

U could have some real fun with this op! grin

My thoughts exactly. GrinGrinGrin

CountFosco · 13/09/2018 07:24

U could have some real fun with this op!

Oh, oh, oh. Can we have suggestions for your morning school run outfits? You need to do it in a onesie then change for the afternoon. Or wear an entirely red and purple outfit. Or a mustard cord suit. I think a visit to the charity shop is a good idea.

Seriously, if she just happened to wear the same clothes that blwould be one thing but the changing and then making mean comments about you is just weird and rather sad TBH.

Original poster
rightknockered · 13/09/2018 07:55

I actually like the idea of a mustard cord suit Grin

OP posts:
heattreated · 13/09/2018 10:14

i think it probably that she gas similar taste to you and it might be that you've jogged her memory that she has that in her wardrobe and she should dig it out. strange that she does the very same afternoon though!

at school there are several of us who (we're not in the same mum group of friends) appear like clones in the following outfits:
stripe top, jeans and khaki jacket
waxed jacket, jeans and mulberry handbag
trainers, chinos and denim jacket.

teachers even have a joke about us sending memo!

MoltonSilver · 13/09/2018 17:40

I often change after the morning school run. I don't think that bit is too unusual. I leave in a hurry so throw on anything. I shower and make myself presentable after I get back.

CountFosco · 13/09/2018 20:09

Totally awesome!

Cantthinkofnameargh · 13/09/2018 20:38

From what you have said, I think she is envious of your style and that's the reason why she tells her friends that you are copying her.

I think you should ignore her and wear what you want even to the lunch you need to get too. I think she will always look you up and down no matter what you do.

I'm quite curious to know what she would do if you changed to another outfit before the pick up and do that for a week.

TantricTwist · 13/09/2018 20:54

Just wear the same jeans and a black t shirt and old coat every single morning for a while and change into your normal outfit once the morning school run is over.

TantricTwist · 13/09/2018 20:55

btw these are traits of a sociopath so steer well clear of her

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.