Funeral wear

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I need to find a couple of dresses for my girls for my brothers funeral next week. I just can't find anything appropriate and can't think clearly as to where to look. I'm thinking online as don't have the energy to shop. They are 8 and 5.

Son was going to go in shirt and navy chinos. Do you think that's ok?

So sorry about your brother.

Would something like this work for the girls?

www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/girls-dresses/day-dresses/g0673-nav/girls-prussian-blue-peculiar-pets-short-sleeved-jersey-dress

Not sure if you're planning to dress them in the same thing but it's not too formal and you could put a little cardigan over the top if it gets chilly.

I am so sorry you are having to do this.

I had a quick look at a few brands for you. Arket children are classic clothes and have several dresses that are suitable. Also try Mint Velvet girls or Jigsaw from John Lewis on line. Mini Boden will be worth a look too. All have attractive and appropriate clothes for girls.

DS in a shirt and navy chinos is fine.

Shirt and navy chinos is fine.

I seem to remember reading once that school uniform was a Generally Acceptable For Children At Funerals thing, if that would make life easier for you.

Or this for 5yo and this for 8yo? (M&S)

This from H&M in navy or burgundy?

Or this, also from H&M

So sorry for your loss OP. I had this last year for my DF’s funeral. I had two ideas either a cheap black school uniform skirt with a white, grey or black top or a navy or black dress. I found George at Asda really good they still have a few navy dresses and this black dress direct.asda.com/george/kids/dresses-outfits/belted-star-print-shirt-dress/GEM620095,default,pd.html

So sorry for your loss, I've had a little look on next as it's so easy to order from...

www.next.co.uk/g74216s8#513987

www.next.co.uk/style/st280098#517886

And a couple of JL options

www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-girls'-constellation-jersey-dress-navy/p3717337

www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-girls'-spot-print-dress/purple/p3599194

Thank you for the suggestions. A few of those (boden, next) I had picked out already so I must be along the right lines.

It's just so hard isn't it. Need to get myself sorted out as well in the next week. Dreading it.

If you need any help looking for something for yourself let us know OP, ideally with the same online store ie next so you've only got to order once.

So sorry for your loss.

It's hard dressing children for funerals. Navy chinos and a shirt will be fine. You could stick with navy for the girls.

This dress could work, maybe with cardigans if it's chilly.

www.matalan.co.uk/product/detail/s2685961_c270/girls-lace-dress-4-13yrs-navy?gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2M312vug3QIVS7XtCh0JhA2qEAQYAiABEgL9-vD_BwE#&gid=null&pid=1

Thank you all for your help and suggestions Here's what I've ordered so far all from boden (along with a dress for me)
Is it ok do you think?
I know I'm worrying about things that probably matter not. But the alternative is having to think about what has actually happened and I'm really struggling with that

That looks fine. They look lovely but muted so suitable. Tough times and nobody reallyminds what children wear but good to have something where they feel comfortable and appropriately dressed.

Struggling is fine. At your age your brother isn’t meant to die. It would be odd not to struggle. Stick with survival at the moment and allow yourself time to grieve. Allow the children that too, if they were close. It takes about two years for the normal grieving process to go full cycle usually so don’t be too hard on yourself about coping or not.

They all look lovely and very appropriate.

Thinking of you OP, it must be an awful time and you're doing so well. It's normal to focus on what are little things after a death or in the run up to a funeral it's what keeps us going. Hope you have family and friends around you for support

Two years . I don't feel like I will last the day let alone two more years. Wasn't that long ago I was on here stressing about choosing something for his wedding

Glad what I've chosen is ok though so thank you.

So sorry for your loss, OP. The kids look very smart and they also look like a lovely, close little bunch ❤️