Natural Redness in hair and Patchy roots

[BobCat24]

Ive seen that some of you are experts in hair colour advice.
Ive had a years long struggle with my hair colour. All i want is a natural brown colour and covered greys.
My hair was naturally dark ashy brown but evidently i have alot of red undertones as every time i dye it whether its at the salon or at home, it fades to a gingery tone. I recently stripped my hair as there was so much dark build up. I am now ginger all over, light ginger at the roots, they refuse to take colour no matter what, and dark ginger everywhere else. Ive tried purple shampoos and toners but nothing helps. Its a patchy mess. If i re dye my hair it will go back to black as it always does, even if i use a light brown dye.
My questions to you experts are:
Why do my roots never take colour and insist on having a gingery hue to them?
If i bleach my whole head would it get rid of the redness so that i can start again trying to get to a normal brown ashy colour?
So fed up!
Would really appreciate any tips from you all.

I know it's more expensive but I would go to a proper hairdresser for professional advice.

Sorry OP I realise that's probably not the advice you were looking for.

i have, many times. No matter how much i pay or how much experience they have, they cant seem to fix it.

I feel your pain BobCat, I have exactly the same problem. I'd been going to a place with excellent reviews for a while but every time, after the first week or 2 I was back to faded rusty ginger which looked crap as my colouring is neutral/cool.

A couple of weeks ago I went to a big city place and spent a fortune only for the same to be happening again. The roots look way too dark and I can see reddish tinges coming through in patches.

I hope you find a way to get the colour you want. All I want is lightish brown hair but that seems like too much to ask.

Nice to know im not alone poppym12 but just wish there was a solution for us. Can it really be that complicated?
Am thinking if all else fails again il have to dye it very dark again and then put highlights in to lighten it up a bit. But then what happens when after a week the roots fade and the grey and ginger comes through? Oh its all so frustrating, feel like shaving the lot off!

I’m sick of going faded ginger & am going to go grey. I saw a wonderful looking young woman with grey hair at the V&A last week & it just confirmed to me that the faded ginger is probably more aging than grey hair.

I've been tempted to go grey but when my grey roots are showing, the menopausal thinning at the front is way more obvious to me. the balding distresses me a lot so I'm not ready to embrace the grey and the thinning.

Is there a gradual way of going grey rather than having a whopping demarcation line (without bleach)?

I don’t know. I last had my roots done in May & have been using a purple conditioner to try and tone down the brassy tones. My hair is quite short but it doesn’t grow particularly quickly.