What would you say to your 19 yr old DD who is set on lip fillers even though she's perfectly beautiful as she is?

[LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset]

She's not even got small lips even though it wouldn't matter if she did. I think they (natural ones) can look far more subtle and nice. Or as she's 19 maybe I've got no right to advise her? Any thoughts would help.

Happy stripper, the lip augmentation I had was actually long term, being due to the fact I was young and naive and used a beautician without any background information and who was a bit of a cowboy when it came to fillers. She permanently damaged tissue in my upper lip and made it hard, I can still feel it now when I squeeze my top lip

That’s really crap Bunintheoven88, there definitely are a lot of concerns like that. I was just commenting on it as now everyone pretty exclusively gets temporary ones as they look much more natural while still full and are generally much safer. That’s also why I recommended making sure it was done by a licensed medical doctor, not a beautician who really has no qualifications whatsoever to perform something like this, I’m honestly surprised it’s even allowed.

I was going to say show her pictures of Lauren Goodger. Or any other Instagram type current celebs that have awful fillers. As well what pictures of when they go wrong

A recent picture of Lauren G - enough to put anyone off.

Lip fillers are normally temporary. Tbh at 19 it's her body and if she's hell bent on doing it Id just help her find a reputable place to do it, by a Dr or dentist. Lip fillers done naturally can look lovely, but obviously towie etc. Style can look bad.

The most you can do is show her horror stories and reinforce the fact that you think she is beautiful with her natural lips.

I’ll write you out of our will....

Maybe a bit brutal but if it stopped her then I’d see it as a win!

Yes to Leslie Ash.

Plump It is an excellent alternative to fillers.

It's a lip gloss/gel that dries to nothing so that you can put your normal lip product on top.
Stings like hell for 5 mins but the results last hours and you can control the 'plump' by using different amounts of the product.

It's only about £20 online and lasts forever.

Lip Voltage is the same, but it's an actual gloss so no putting lip products on top.

Ask her to maybe look into or try those first? If not, there's not much you can do apart from make sure the clinic is reputable!

@Timefortea99 goodness. She was such a pretty girl.

I don't understand why these people mess with their already beautiful faces. It's so sad that modern society encourages Botox, Fillers and Plastics as a norm.
They're medical procedures! Nothing to be taken lightly and which can have seriously painful side effects.

Scary.

Very expensive to maintain is a good argument against

she'll probably grow out of it... it's hard to see for yourself until after. i had a nose job when i was 20 much to my parents horror 🙈 i get what rhett we're saying now. my nose job is fine but seriously i would have survived just fine without... but yeah i didn't come to that conclusion til quite a while after the fact I'm fine though, just a little bit poorer

She's read this and we had a laugh about it. It's up to her now: I can't forcibly stop her.

But I like your style Lumpy76 .

Lip fillers are not permanent - they dissolve after about six months to a year, I believe.

I honestly think that you should take the 'grin and bear it' route. Make sure she finds a reputable place, who will advise a subtle and natural approach. It might surprise you how nice well-done lip fillers can look.

Once she realises how expensive it all is, she might have them done once and never again. If she decides she likes it, well then it's up to her. It's no different to people correcting large noses with rhinoplasty. You don't have to like certain features of your face.

I had them at 19. No one was going to stop me. Depending on your relationship with her and what she's like as a person, maybe figure out whether it would be better to fight her about it or help her find a reputable place and advise/support her if you think she's just going to do it anyway. My lips weren't small and I only had a little bit of filler but to me it really did make all the difference! Good luck xx

Also, they do only last 6-12 months so it isn't "permanent" unless of course something does go wrong and causes irreversible damage/scarring. Hopefully that wouldn't happen though if she found the right place to do it x

I know they're not permanent but I do not want her to get into that addiction of altering herself so young, esp as nothing needs altering. From what I've heard once you start you want more. I think that's what concerns me.

Oh and a tip if she does go through with it, they aren't cheap and it's sad when the filler is gone so it's sort of a commitment to getting them redone again and again. Maybe remind her of that. It's not a one time quick fix thing, a bit like Botox I guess. You have to keep it up

Oh I won't fight her about it and I'll go with her too if she wants and will make sure it's legit/reputable etc. She's 50/50 about it now though.

She’s an adult, so she can do what she wants to her own body.

You could try suggesting she ask the opinion of some young lads around her wn age. I bet most of them hate fake lips....

Who on earth decided that the duck face is a good look? People openly mock it now, let alone in the future.

It's so very hard to persuade young people and some older people too, that they really don't need to interfere with nature in order to look good they're just trying to conform to some unknown person's ideal. That's a weird thing really when you think about it.

A friend's daughter is a highpressuresalesperson consultant for a big name clinic. It's so target driven and pressured. It really isn't based on what's good for the potential patient, but off the back of it, she's earning great bonuses selling and upselling proceduresthatdon'tlookthatgood

If she's determined to get them done then she needs to go for the best and most natural which are hyaluronic lip fillers.

Although I'm with you at being very hesitant at the fact that she could have either a horrible allergic reaction or it just goes horribly wrong and her confidence will go right down.

It does seem crazy to our generation to be getting this done at 19.
Who's paying for it anyway? If it's her then start charging her more rent if she lives at home if it's you well need I say more.

I'd definitely work the Kylie Jenner angle. She's just been on the cover of various magazines and looks so much better without filler in her lips.

I had my hair cut today. My hairdresser is stunning, an absolutely young woman and I was shocked when I saw her today. She's had her lips done and she looks awful. You can see the needle marks in her lips and they look like a completely separate part of her body that's just sitting on her face. She said she had them done 3 weeks ago and wished she hadn't, she can already feel a little lump in one of them.

Desmond Maurice who was an anthropologist in the past, said lips were representing the labia and women's were thicker to attract mates, I always think of this when I see big pink ones !!