Is this skirt too short for a second date?

[Namila]

I bought this skirt a few days ago and I'd love to wear it to the date I have tomorrow night.

The date will be drinks at 7pm in a nice (but not formal) bar. Temperature should be 23 degrees according to the weather forecast.

Planning to wear it with dressy flat sandals, a fitted t-shirt and a blazer. I am late 20s.

Yay or nay? Too short? Too sexy? Too casual?

Please help!

A white t-shirt and trainers (or a cute pair of flats) with it, for a casual bar.

If it's a fancier place, swap the above for a leather skirt instead.

Love it. It’s not too short at all (god all I see at the moment is young girls with their shorts so short you can see their pants)!

You have a fab pair of legs. Show them off.

I would watch the shoes though you wear with it. Too high and it might look a little tarty.

Good luck on the date!

If you'd feel comfortable to wear it then it's fine.
Personally I could never wear anything that short

Bloke here.

Dress looks smashing, what's with the ring on your left hand though?

That picture could be reversed, DrNuShooz. There are a lot of mirrors around, after all.

Totally fine and it would go with a blazer. Dressing denim up is no new idea - it's been a thing for years

There are a lot of mirrors around, after all

Ah, of course.

Looks good.

I would (and do) wear trainers to a bar btw, OP. No issues. Most women seem to these days. Mind you, I’m not a heels person, tbh I think they look a bit dated unless with formal wear.

I’d avoid blazer too, think the skirt isn’t quite right with a blazer

If a skirt is "too short" for a second date, then what situation would it be appropriate for?

I wouldn’t say it’s ‘too sexy’ at all. It’s not sexy lol it’s a casual denim skirt! The only way that would look sexy is if you had a Kim Kardashian-esque hip and bum area.

Personally I would pair it with a silk cami top, tucked in. Probably wouldn’t pair it with a blazer - the buttons and pockets make it look fair too casual as opposed to a plain one. I would wear a leather jacket instead: t’s also not too short either, I have seen much shorter denim skirts out and about! Also evening nights ‘out out’ are where shorter skirts are more appropriate anyway (as opposed to during the day)

i'd wear this, i prefer to be smart casual ( with a lean to casual) on dates in bars, most the people in them will be dressed similarly for meetups with friends or casual drinks. I always feel like you stick out like a sore thumb if you really dress up for a bar, you can tell which people are 'on a date' quite often. Unless you're out post work and are in office wear i do think people tend to dress down to be cool these days.
Bar depending, i'd wear trainers and a slightly tucked in t-shirt with that and put the effort into my hair or makeup. If its a bit smarter i'd try to make it less casual with some black and then add jewellery. Nothing wrong with the skirt though- really the only issue is the riding up, if you get lumbered with a bar stool you might regret it - i'd personally stick with some high waisted trousers/culottes with a t-shirt for a similar on trend but casual vibe.
Hope the date goes well OP!

also just to add - is this a thing now that men chime in to ask women why they are going on dates if they have jewellery on their left hand?
I wear my jewellery on whatever fingers it fits or i like it, as is up to me, and honestly since the OP came for advice on her skirt, what a weird unsolicited question. I'd not be rushing back to justify that one OP [confused}. Smashing 'dress' though. sigh.

is this a thing now that men chime in to ask women why they are going on dates if they have jewellery on their left hand?

Why just men? Can women not ask as well? Assuming the poster asked from the dating POV, if I were dating I would ask that question of anyone who wore a ring on their ring finger.

It's not too short but it's too ugly.

@nervyuyt - because the person that asked stated they were a man, and no women had commented regarding that issue? I'd prefer that wasn't made something it isn't, but apologies if the wording bothered you.

Quite obviously anyone can ask, but why would you, in the context of a stranger asking whether a skirt is ok, which is what has happened here; policing and intruding the OP's personal life, and whether she is taken because her ring might mark her to be - is a bit weird in this context, as well as (to me) outdated thought. Specifically as its the only real point they made, having not looked very much at her outfit at all, since they called it a dress and the title even says 'skirt'.

If you were actually dating this person in real life and the outcome affected you, then by all means you might ask if they were married or engaged if a piece of jewellery made you suspect they were ( though as i said, these days i'm not sure it quite works that way for a lot of people) rings go on fingers, not 'ring fingers' -people wear them as such for a variety of reasons that are not matrimony or engagement.
Either way that is not what's happened here, the person that commented isn't dating the OP are they, they just want to ask what she is doing out and about dating with a ring on that 'ring finger' - for some reason which i think is a bit off. You are of course, welcome to think that it isn't.

I hardly think OP is on here having extra marital dates and has just been sprung by eagle eyed commenters. Though again if she were, since she asked for outfit advice only , I'm not sure what it would have to do with a total stranger that they'd point it out.

I'd have found it just as odd if the comment was ' nice 'dress' OP but mainly i'm concerned about who's bag that is, are you dating but really that is your boyfriends bag there hmm' - obviously i'm being trite but its a bit insidiously problematic when men police or involve themselves in things like this unsolicited, obviously just saying the outfit was nice and leaving it there would have sufficed. It would also be strange if a woman said it, though none here have done so, so i have not called any out.

I completely agree with you. I was also looking at the skirt, which is what we were asked about.

It's not too short but I am not convinced it is that flattering on your lovely figure.

Not too short no but I wouldn’t team it with a blazer. It’s too casual for that

I love the blazer/jacket and jeans/denim skirt combo. I've been wearing it for years. Love a mix of smart and casual in one outfit.

I'm shocked some people think this is too short you look great OP, you've got a great figure and if you can't wear something like that when you're young and in great shape then when can you?

Can't imagine any man I've ever dated/or known(!) thinking it's too short either! Good luck!

Don’t get me wrong it’s nice and you have a lovely figure but I think it’s too casual? Length is fine imo but too causal

I think it's a bit daytime and looks slightly too tight around the middle, but I am being picky!

You have lovely legs

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It's totally fine. Looks good. Good luck on your date, hope it goes well.

Length is okay, not sexy at all, is casual whatever you put with it since it's denim.

Your dates lucky... You look great..