Can I wear white to pre-wedding dinner as a guest?

[rosewater09]

I am a guest at a wedding next week. It is a destination wedding and a five day (yes, five days!!!) event with wedding-related parties, etc. every day. Each event is relatively formal and has meant purchasing formal clothing (as I didn't have anything formal that would work for a hot climate), and the new clothes, plus plane tickets and the hotel has meant I have so far spent around £1,100. I am struggling to find an outfit to wear to one of the pre-wedding events, and I do not want to spend any more money on this wedding. I have a white jumpsuit that I think would work well for this event but I was unsure if I should avoid wearing white because it is a wedding-related event? I am of course not wearing white to the actual wedding and reception (I have a beautiful light blue ball gown for that event).

Can I wear white to the pre-wedding event?

I think for a pre wedding dinner it would be fine if you think it's sufficiently dressy.

A five day destination wedding? Has the world really gone this mad?

You will be fine!!

Or just rewear something?

Thank you! Yes, I can't believe it is five days either. From what I understand, each event will be spectacular so hoping it turns into an enjoyable five days but I am not a wedding person, so this is stretching it for me!

My God, I can hardly be arsed for an all day wedding unless it's family.

You must be a very, very good friend.

MissConductUS, I am entirely over weddings, and the effort guests are expected to make for them. This upcoming wedding will be the fourth wedding I have been to this summer, and after this one, I still have three more to go (with two those of those being long-haul destination weddings).

On the upside, I have a whole new wardrobe of pretty summer outfits, but because most of them are formal, I don't have anywhere to wear them to and so have taken to swanning about the house in long formal gowns while my DP rolls his eyes at me!

Is the couple from a cultural tradition that requires all of the elaborate ceremonies? If not it seems like a massive ego festival, a "look at us" extravaganza.

While your new formal wardrobe is lovely I'm sure, if you think of what you've spent on it and all of these weddings you probably could have bought a new car.

I'll have to have a chat with my 16 year old DD to make sure she isn't expecting us to fund something like this.

same outfit for each event.

you are nearly as mad as mr and mrs zilla!

specialsubject, I am wearing the same outfits for the different weddings but am not obviously wearing the same thing every night to the five-day wedding event that I have coming up.

MissConductUS, nope, this wedding isn't from a cultural tradition that requires a lot of ceremonies, just a typical COE ceremony.

Thanks for clearing that up rose. Just because I'm nosy about the lifestyles of the rich and famous, can you tell us a bit about the nature of the events in the five days leading up to the nuptials? Is ritual sacrifice to the fertility gods involved or possibly drinking games or bonfires?

Haha missconduct, no ritual sacrifices but lots of dinners, brunches and parties in ballrooms to honour the couple. Each event is at a different location, and they all look beautiful, so I am sure it will be worth even to take in the atmosphere. I do imagine there will be lots of people Instagramming. I am hoping that I can treat this is a holiday and that I will have a lot of time to explore the little town we are going to and relax by the pool with a book, then that will at least help feel better about the amount of money and time being spent.

OP, your jumpsuit sounds fine. Your mates sound like proper 'zillas though.

I seriously hope you manage to relax and feel like you've been "away", because this really is above and beyond the call of duty IMO.