Bridesmaid dress etiquette - can I charity shop it?

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Next month I'm a BM.

Bride bought the dress. I paid for it to be altered (she knowingly bought the wrong size). If it matters, she never offered to pay for the alterations (which probably cost more than the dress) although she knew I needed them. There are 6 bridesmaids. As far as I know she paid for all the dresses.

I will never, ever wear it again so don't want to keep the dress. She bought it thinking I could rewear it.

What's the etiquette? Is the dress mine to do with as I want (ie charity shop)?

She's easily offended.

Thanks!

Charity shop it.
If she asks why you aren't wearing it again just say you burnt it ironing it.

I would consider it your dress. But if your friend is even a tiny bit highly strung I would run it by her first.

There is a nice organisation near me, pop up prom that takes formal wear and gives/lends it to high school students who wouldn't otherwise afford it.

You could say to bride 'such a beautiful dress, I don't have any occasions to wear it blah blah blah'

I’d actually try and sell it; I told my bridesmaids that after the wedding they could do what they want with the dresses including sell or give away. I don’t want it back however if she’s easily offended I’d wait a respectable period of time such as a few months then do what you want with it

I'd donate it, telling my friend in advance that it was such a lovely dress that you didn't want it to just sit around in your wardrobe. If you can find somewhere like the prom charity mentioned up thread, how could she possibly object?

knowingly bought the wrong size????

she doesnt like you very much, does she? why are you even wasting a day on her?

Did she get them on sale with limited sizes available?is that why she got wrong size?
I think you should hang it somewhere for a while or put in attic,then chuck it and tell her someone borrowed it and never gave it back?
Bit of a long winded excuse if she asks what happened to it 😂

Why did she buy you the wrong size? She doesn't sound much of a friend.

I've made her sound bad. Oops!
She bought them in an outlet. As Blondielongie said there were limited sizes so she bought a size bigger to get it altered.
Literally the only place to keep it is in my single wardrobe which is the issue.

Maybe you could offer it back to her, as she paid for it?

I would donate it in a few months time somewhere out of your area and never mention it again

This reminds me of my bridesmaid scenario. Friend living overseas ordered a dodgy dress from China and had it delivered to my address. I had to pay the extortionate customs charge. The paid to get it altered. Again extortionate as done in a hurry. Flew to overseas location of the wedding. Had to get dress steamed to get rid of creases. Cost a bomb. In the end I had probably paid about 6 times the cost of the hideous dress on all this. I didn't bring it home . Bride is lovely though and I think realised had bought shit dresses.

Id give it away in a heart beat!

Does she want it back after? No? Then do what you please with it.

Give it her back and if she doesn’t want it then charity shop it.

I sold mine as it was a phase 8 formal dress and I’m completely certain than my sister would have sold hers from my wedding too.