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Haggard at 33

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Andthatswhatitsallabout · 24/07/2018 18:34

Well like the title says! I blame sleep deprivation over 5+ years. I am really down about this although I know it's fickle and a very first world problem.
I used to enjoy putting on makeup and getting ready. I feel I look like such an wreak in the face. I have very, very deep frown lines and other lines in my forehead. I am finally beginning to get some sleep but the lines remain. I drink loads of water, exercise etc. I get told constantly that I look exhausted and I feel I have aged so much over the last 4 years. I can accept other lines like laughter lines but my forehead lines are so bad that they seem to have distorted my face, I am not exaggerating, one of my eyebrows has been pushed further down.
I have been thinking of getting Botox for years but was breastfeeding etc.
I guess my question is has anyone had it and as I worry about health and the fact that it is a neurotoxin, is there anyway it could spread to other muscles like the heart? I know that sounds like a stupid question but genuinely never thought I'd consider this but I am 33 and they are already deep so only going to get worse. I would also like to feel good over the next few years as now I am constantly dodging photos and have a fringe which I hate falling into my eyes..

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CountFosco · 24/07/2018 18:56

You have very young children. We all wake up out of the babyfog and think 'Fuck sake, what happened?' but no-one else is thinking that about you. You will get back to normal but you need to give it time. I've got 14 years on you and am slimmer and fitter than I've been for years but it took several years after my youngest was born to really get back to being me (he's 6 now).

Andthatswhatitsallabout · 24/07/2018 19:03

Thanks Count for your reply, thing is I am pretty fit and luckily my body is back to usual, actually slimmer than before I had kids.
I see lots of people ten years older me who look a lot fresher. It's not all about looking younger. Like I said in my op my face looks like I have slept on a maths book and it's been ingrained into my forehead...
also my frown lines make me look angry all the time. Just fed up with..

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Chrestomanciscat · 24/07/2018 19:32

Hello, I agree with the other poster that people probably don't notice as you do, but, I've felt like this after two children close together. I've always been unhappy with the massive circles round my eyes and after no sleep for several years it got really bad. Anyway, one month ago I did something about it and feel fabulous. I had tear trough rejuvenation and I feel like I now look normal and not like a heroin addict. I've also had forehead BOTOX though those wrinkles didn't upset like me lije youes seem to. If you've got the cash, do it. It will make you feel much better. I'll try and add some photos if you're interested. In my experience the practitioners I've found through save face have been really good (two) 😗

Chrestomanciscat · 24/07/2018 19:34

Forgot, the forehead boots I got was for the lines between eyebrows which made me look angry or worried all the time. They've gone and NO ONE, not even my husband has noticed

Andthatswhatitsallabout · 24/07/2018 20:34

Thanks for your replies. Chrestoman I definitely relate to that feeling of looking like someone who has a drug problem or a hard night the night previously ,it's frustrating especially since I am careful about food/water etc. I still only average around 6 hours sleep a night so maybe I should give it time...
I hate it though, I think also when I look permanently exhausted it makes me feel it. I am honestly not that self obsessed but it does get a bit wearing when other says how tired I look all. the .time.

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MoltonSilver · 24/07/2018 21:47

I had this experience and managed to turn it around. My40 something skin is fresher than my 30 something skin.

I think the first step is skincare. Leave botox for the moment.

Acid toner, retinol and spf are what you need to be thinking. Also, get your bloods done. Low iron and/or B12 could be contributing.

This is a good place to start with skincare -
www.carolinehirons.com/2013/06/routines-cheat-sheet.html

Andthatswhatitsallabout · 24/07/2018 21:50

Thanks Moltonsilver, will check this out!

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