FFS why won’t they listen?! Brazilian wax

[ThomasRichard]

Since my favourite waxxer moved, I’ve been unable to find someone who will actually listen to what I ask for. I don’t want a tiny stripe like a chipmunk, or a triangle bikini-worthy pyramid. I want a bikini line wax on the front triangle and everything off around the labia and bum. I explain at the beginning of the appointment when they ask what I’m going for, I demonstrate where I want the lines by drawing them on with my fingers. I acknowledge that it isn’t a usual Brazilian. And they still do it. After yesterday’s experience, which left me with so little hair that I might as well have gone for a Hollywood, I’ve had enough.

What do I do? Draw the lines on with a sharpie?!

I think what you're looking for might be called a high bikini?

I have what you want and that's what I pay for.

We need a diagram!

Diagram as requested

I’ve had a high bikini before but they didn’t take everything off underneath. I could try again, taking the diagram with me!

I’d explain what you’ve said here. You had a regular waxer who did exactly what you asked for and have failed to find another. Then tell them what you want. They then may want to ‘compete’ with your original waxer.
If you’ve tried that and it’s failed then I don’t know! Offer a huge tip if they get it right?? Keep trying new people until someone listens! I completely understood from your description.

That’s what’s so frustrating. It’s been over a year and I haven’t been to the same salon twice. You’d think that one person out of maybe 15-20 would understand what I want, but no. The first couple of times, I wrote it off as me just not being clear. It’s like they nod along with what I say and then turn into waxbots. Stoppit! The one yesterday has left with with a 2cm strip about 2 inches long. It looks ridiculous. I need a merkin!

Next time, I will take the diagram and the sob story and tell them if they still don’t listen.

Could you not find your old waxed? Track her down 😂

You want a G-String wax, tidied at the front and everything off underneath. Most beauticians should do this?

I think it's called a full bush Brazilian.

I have nothing to add.
I just wanted to admire your dedication and the illustration. Brava.

Oh I've had this called a Californian before!

OP draw them a template on with a marker pre wax!
I would actually take that pic with you next time, explain why, but take it.

I know this isn't helpful to you, but my salon has diagrams on its booking website and you select the one you want. Why don't they all do this?! It's such a good idea.

I want a colleague / partner / DC to find that picture when you're out..

Maybe try asking the opposite way? ‘I want a high bikini but could you take everything off underneath and behind?’ V frustrating though! Other option: go into hysterics about how much they’ve taken off as if it’s a terrible haircut. Then be sure to book the same waxer next time so she has The Fear.

Beauty therapist here.

All these terms mean absolutely nothing. Don’t confuse the issue.

Explain what you want. Move underwear and show, I want this gone, I like to keep this etc.

Don’t ask for names of styles. Honestly, they were made up by cosmopolitan magazine years ago, and mean ziltch.

Explain you are fussy and would like it a certain way. They will be fine and happy to remove the hair you want. I always ask a new client to check and see if it’s ok. I like them to wear underwear or I provide paper thongs. I don’t want the whole area in my face. It’s not respectful. Also far more opportunities for wax to fall in the wrong area. Which no one wants.

I read in a magazine once (probanly cosmo) that it was called a scicilian. But have never seen it on any pricelist.

The problem with that, Wednesday, is that you have no idea how much you’re going to end up paying. I once went for a “Brazilian” and the therapist didn’t take any of the bottom off. When I asked her to she said that’d be an extra £5.

I’ve also never had good results in salons where they make you wear a paper thong. If you’re sensitive about seeing someone’s minge then perhaps waxing isn’t a great choice of occupation for you.

love I don’t charge more. It’s a set price whatever you have. I don’t think that’s very respectful way to speak either.

As I said the paper pants are there to stop wax dripping on sensitive areas.

I’m just telling you about my experience, that’s all.

I take the view that I’m the customer so I will give my business to someone who gives me the kind of service I want. The lack of transparency over pricing was the main reason I never went back to that salon again.

Luckily I’ve found someone really good now and I’m happy to give her my business.

There shouldn't be any wax 'dropping on sensitive areas' - if there is, the person waxing must be highly incompetent. And the OP isn't 'fussy', she's stating what she wants and not getting it because the waxing woman isn't listening to her! Asking for what you want isn't fussy.

I agree no wax should drip. However. I have seen newly qualified therapists drip or trail wax, so I always recommend people wear underwear to protect themselves if they don’t know the therapist.

I’m fussy and I think saying that to the therapist is no bad thing. Believe me, you see all sorts of things in the beauty industry and if someone came to me saying they were fussy and wanted something special it wouldn’t bother me. I’d still go out of my way to accommodate them.

Lots of times people are embarrassed and don’t say what they really want to the therapist. I’ve been in the industry over 20 years, but younger inexperienced therapists sometimes struggle to ask the right questions to find out what a client really wants, rather than what they are asking for-due to embarrassment.

Maybe I should do a AMA.

I’d read it!

@FusionChefGeoff I was in a hotel so I hope no one has to sort through the bin

Thanks everyone for the suggestions. I’ve never had to wear pants of any sort for anything other than a bikini wax, so that’s interesting. If I kept them on then that might discourage the gung-ho ness! I might just try taking an eyeliner pencil with me and drawing on the bikini line as I describe what I want. They’ll probably think I’m barking but never mind.

I did find my old waxer but at her new salon they use a different type of wax and the warmer only has two settings, both of which are too hot.

I really am fussy!

I’ve had clients draw a line with eyeliner before. It’s not unusual.

You see all sorts when you are in the profession. Things far far worse than eyeliner.