Comments about other people's appearance

[PugwallsSummer]

Why, unless there's something positive to say, to some people think it's ok to pass comment on others' appearance?

On Thursday I had a rare, and much looked forward to, day out with friends (no children in tow). Having spent time getting ready and feeling really good about myself, one of my friends in a voice filled with false concern, told me I'd lost too much weight and my face looked "haggard". I haven't lost any weight, but I know I look tired and my face is definitely showing signs of age. I'd really made an effort though. To make it worse, it was in front of everyone, which was so embarrassing - and when I said "I'm not sure I can take that as a compliment, can I?", she went on to defend herself by talking about my "thin" face some more!

So I now feel shit about something I can't change.

Why do some people do this? What do they get out of it?? Genuinely don't get it at all... 🙄

I know! Why?!

My uncle told me I"d put on weight. I'm 48. I'm fucking well allowed to be half a stone heavier than I was in my 20s. He's shrunk, his eyelids are falling off his eyes and he's as bald as a coote, but I didn't mention any of that.

A woman in my office told another woman (she's a bit precious and loves herself) that she looked tired. Now I wouldn't be racing over to console her as she is a wendy but I did think, wow, WHY!? And don't look at me too closely please!

I think if somebody says ''you look tired'' the only answer is ''omg you too! full moon eh? you were up howling all night as well, let's hope the hounds sleep tonight right, we neeeeeeeeeeed our beauty sleep'' - put them in the same boat.

If they comment on your weight say ''well if you ever crack the secret to losing the half a stone tell me ''