Has anyone been to a memorial service? What do you wear?

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We are going to DH’s much loved uncle’s memorial service in a few weeks and I’m getting a bit anxious about it. Im not sure what to wear and I feel if I don’t feel comfortable about my clothes it will add to my anxiety and sadness of the occasion. The invite said to wear bright clothes and they want to make it a happy time of remembrance. It’s being held in a church though the family aren’t religious. Any ideas anyone? Thanks.

Sorry for your loss.

Going by the invitation, anything bright that you're comfortable in.
Maybe not shorts or anything super casual.

Thanks. I’m a bit stumped as funeral dress is straightforward but no idea about a memorial. Thanks anyway.

If they've said bright colours I would go for a quite dressy dress (or top and trousers if that's more your style) in whatever bright colour or print you have plus smart shoes and 'done' hair and make up (if you are a make up wearer). The sort of thing you might wear to a posh restaurant or formal dinner. That shows some effort and respect for the occasion and will also look celebratory. I hope it goes well.

Thangs Loonoon I was maybe going to wear this blue dress I've got but it's an open back so will need to consider that plus think about a jacket. Were traveling for it and I'm only taking hand luggage on the plane. Think I'm over thinking it a bit....

I went to a baby funeral a few years back and got some great advice here. I think stressing about the outfit was part of the grief.
I wore crop trousers the base colour of the dress above, a yellow top, a smart pale blue jacket navy shoes and handbag filled with lots of tissues.
We did the poor little thing proud. I still wear the clothes and think of him. The dress above with a jacket or smarter cardi will be fine.

Thanks Ellen God a baby's funeral must have been awful.