So what would a fat 45 year old wear to the pub?

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Firstly for a lunch with a girlfriend who is so much better than you and secondly to a works drinks night?
I'm lost. And fat. And old
Thank you

And I'm going to look out the tape measure and order in some new bras. See if I can perk things up!

Cheap but good jeans...try Sainsburys...both their black jeggings and their high rise black skinners are great and hold me in...

Can see you're sad about more than just how you think you look, but all the more reason to go out and see people you love x

Matalan skinnies (April I think they're called) are brilliant for holding in. I'm a big tummied size 14 and love these jeans so much I have them in all colours. They're only £16.

If you fancy a kimono try the website One Hundred Stars. They are beautiful. I have this pansy print one.

I agree with pps, Sainsbury's jeans are surprisingly good. And they have 25% off until Monday.

Black loose camisole top, blazer and interesting flats always looks good.

Sainsbury's have some nice flat mules at the moment, I liked these:

tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/p/Black-Embroidered-Slip-On-Mules/132818234-Black

And these

tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/p/Yellow-Pointed-Slip-On-Loafer-Mules/132817151-Yellow

margaritasbythesea those kimono are lovely!
Also second the Sainsbury jeggings. Great value.

I am 44 size 14/16 and 5,7 too. Been bigger been smaller 4DDs and busy but rewarding full time teaching job means I can't always devote the time i'd like to healthy eating and exercise. Yep cleavage used to be redeeming feature but now it's too wrinkly and too far south.

I have a night with my lovely but slim and flat chested pals this weekend so my insecurities (like yours) have kicked in. They'll look cool and chic in culottes and high neck sleeveless tops while I eh, won't .

Have bought these today to wear with black or red strappy high healed sandals that I already have.

I am glad you like them MadonnasMum