What to wear to a funeral?

[bexcee]

I'm after some advice/inspiration.

It's my dads funeral in just under two weeks time and I have nothing to wear and no idea what to buy.

I went to the shops today but nothing seemed right. I know that whatever I buy I won't wear again. It's not like buying an outfit for a night out where I am looking forward to it.

I just want someone to pick me an outfit and say wear that!

I don't know if I should wear a dress or trousers and a top.

Please someone help me.

I bought this to wear to a funeral recently:
[http://www.marksandspencer.com/jersey-half-sleeve-swing-dress/p/p60156457?image=SD_01_T42_8730_Y0_X_EC_90&color=BLACK&prevPage=srp]

It's simple, modest and cheap enough that I don't mind that I'm unlikely to wear it again. As it is Summer a dress might be more comfortable.

Sorry for your loss

I go to a fair number of funerals. I have a funeral outfit. Black trousers & black jumper. Black blazer in summer & black coat in winter. But the lost important thing is to be comfortable. I don’t like dresses so never wear them.

Sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry your dad has died. It really doesn't matter what you wear as long as you are comfortable. I was at a funeral yesterday and although the majority of people wore black with black or white/cream tops, there was quite a lot of navy blue being worn. Do you have someone who can go shopping with you? You might find it easier.

So sorry about your dad, @bexcee.

I think Kokapeti's link is a good idea. It's smart and modest and not expensive if you want to give it to charity the next day. Though if you wanted you could buy something lovely and choose to wear it often and remember him when you do. I wore a smart work trousersuit to MiL's funeral and when I wear it now it reminds me how much I loved her.

I wore a plain black chain store dress to my father's funeral with a cardigan to cover my arms. I kept both for about a year and then put in charity bag.

. Difficult times.

PS: what would your dad have liked?

Sorry for your loss.
I wore last years version of that dress to a funeral with a black velvet jacket and boots as it was winter, but it would be fine with tights and black shoes.
At my MiL's funeral, people wore black with red (her favourite colour) accessories, might something like that make it feel more personal?

I got a black Anna Field button-through jersey dress from Zalando for my Dad's funeral. They don't have the exact one anymore but they do have quite a few I think would be suitable, and they're pretty cheap too, without looking it.

I just wear my plain black shift dress and black jacket. You can wear what you like. Nobody andbi mean nobody will be judging you. Wear whats comfortable.

Im sorry.

My dad’s funeral was last week. I wore a plain black long sleeved knee length wrap dress and nude mid heeled court shoes.

Dress was £8 from New Look in the sale, good cos I hope to never wear it again. It’s also maternity wear, I’m 27 weeks. I was lucky to find it!

So sorry this has happened to you too OP. It’s awful isn’t it. Wishing you strength on the day.

Thanks everyone you've been helpful.

I can't face the shops again so I think I'll order a few online to try on at home.

For my mum's funeral I wore a purple dress that she had always liked and some of her jewellery. For all other funerals I wear something smart, sober, totally un-memorable and in a dark colour, but as family, you have a free pass. I'm very sorry about your dad.