White trousers at a wedding

[Thebluedog]

Is it acceptable for a guest at a wedding to wear white trousers?

I’ve got a lovely pair of wide leg trousers that I love, would it be the ‘done’ thing to wear them with a pink blouse, pink shoes and bag?

It’s for my step sons weddIng that’s in a nice hotel. It’s gojng to be fairly informal but then men will still be wearing suits. We’re not close, as I got with his dad when he was an adult, but we get on really well and I don’t want to end up being the Step Mum that turns up in white

I’m now really paranoid about wearing white to weddings thanks to mumsnet

I think that sounds nice.
Hope you have a lovely day

It's poor etiquette to wear white to a wedding unless the bride and groom ask you to. Maybe this particular couple wouldn't mind but you can't go wrong by playing it safe imo. With so many other colours to choose from don't risk upsetting them, or other guests.

Sounds lovely I’d wear it - hardly like your turning up in a floor length white gown!

And I doubt anyone would really notice! Wear a coloured top and accessories and it will be olfine

I really wouldn’t. The fact that you’re asking means you’re unsure. I’d err on the aside of caution and find something else.

Absolutely fine to wear white trousers! People wear white or cream jackets all the time to weddings, go for it. People get so worried about it but it’s not like you’re turning up in a white lace dress with a veil! Go for it!

2 of my best friends wore cream outfits to my wedding. They weren’t floor length ball gowns so no chance they were going to upstage me 😂. I think your outfit sounds lovely.

It's fine! It's only wearing a full white dress that would be frowned upon! As someone up thread said, people wear cream or white cardigans and jackets all the time.

Thank you for responding. I’d love to wear a dress (not white ) but I’ve put on a few stone over the past few years, so feel quite self conscious as I’m really pear/Apple shaped now. The trousers are the only thing I feel comfortable in and don’t make me look like I’m an umpa lumpa

It depends what the bride is wearing op. If she's going full-on bridal with a glam gown then you're okay to wear white trousers, if it's a relaxed registry wedding then I wouldn't do it.

I sat this because I attended a wedding years ago where the bride wore a white skirt suit and a guest wore pretty much the same. It was awkward.

I would.

Everyone knows you aren’t the bride fgs.

Your outfit sounds lovely.

I really don’t understand people on these threads. Not wearing white isn’t about being mistaken for the bride. Presumably everyone at the wedding knows the bride so no one is going to get confused even if you wore the exact same dress. Not wearing white is a mark of respect for the bride. It’s a social convention, polite and good etiquette. Why would anyone, knowing that it might be rude, choose to disregard it?

I didn’t even think people wore white trousers anymore- very 90s

Ridiculous Bodear.

In this day and age, wear what you like.

There are loads of conventions that are ridiculous but they're conventions none-the-less. Some people ignore etiquette and do as they please because they don't care what people think, but op doesn't sound like one of them. I personally wouldn't want to make a stand at a stepchild's wedding. Loads of gorgeous colours out there, avoid white imo.

Er it's not poor etiquette to wear half white and half pink though! Especially as it's trousers! Sounds lovely op!!

Of course you can, it’s trousers! No reason not to and I simply don’t understand those saying there is. You’re hardly going to be mistaken for the bride or look like you’re trying to compete! Only on mumsnet do I see this nonsense!

I can see your point magic, but how can we know what a bride is wearing? If a bride chooses to wear something different from a traditional wedding dress, and doesn’t tell anyone, then how can the guests avoid matching?? You may say by avoiding white in any form but what is the bride is wearin a knee length pink dress?? It just gets silly. I think a guest can wear anything to a wedding that doesn’t look like a wedding dress

One of the purposes of the wedding dress is to make the bride stand out, if brides start wearing colour or trousers then it’s their risk if they match guests unless they’ve told their guests

I was at a wedding a couple of years back and one of the brides cousins from the other side of the family wore something similar and it was absolutely gorgeous. I still remember it as I was really mad about her outfit. She wore her trousers with pink as well OP.

@calzone but why is it ridiculous? Do you mean that in this day and age etiquette is no longer important? I’m genuinely asking because I’m not sure what you mean.

Bodear I think it’s just that times have moved on.

It used to be etiquette to have shoulders covered in church but many ignore this. It used to be etiquette to dress appropriately for Ascot but many ignore this too.

I think the pink and white outfit sounds lovely.

At my sister’s wedding a girl wore a white swing dress and hat with a little veil and that did raise an eyebrow but after a while we just didn’t see it.

I wouldn't wear a white dress but I'd have thought trousers would be fine.

Even wedding planners are divided on it, according to Martha Stewart weddings

I can totally see that a white dress, a long white dress, a lacy white dress, a white dress with a full skirt etc etc are bridal and a complete no no because they would look like a wedding dress and this is obviously an awful idea. But banning the colour itself is just nonsense in my mind. White trousers with a coloured top is not bridal so any objection is just simply about the colour which is an argument that holds absolutely no weight for me. It’s just a colour. The priest may be wearing white robes, is this allowed?!