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What shall I wear for 6 pm date later?

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 15:12

Starting in a wine bar "and then we can go somewhere else if we fancy it"....

Everyone will be in workwear. He's coming straight from work.

Whhhaaaattttttt do I wear? Help!

I am early 40s, usually wear Boden dresses, opaques, jacket, jewellery, a bit artsy... He wears casual (but not jeans)....

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 16:32

Thank you, Remus! Coming to think of it, I wonder if double layer is better this time, with ankle boots and chunky silver jewellery, with a leather jacket, and the OB next time. When he takes me for a nice meal Wink

Your outfit sounds gorgeous!

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 13/04/2018 16:37

Leather jacket and chunky silver sounds perfect. Have fun!

ElizabethinherGermanGarden · 13/04/2018 16:48

You have some damn nice clothes OP!

Mulberrysilk · 13/04/2018 16:51

Sounds good to me too.

When in doubt I always end up in something along these lines (but with lower shoes). It'll take you anywhere.

What shall I wear for 6 pm date later?
Bloomed · 13/04/2018 17:08

Love the OB dress. Very fresh.
Do you have links to versions of that outfit Mulberry? I'd love to try that.

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 17:27

Awww thank you, Elizabeth!

Went for double-layer black dress with chunky silver necklace & thin black cardi to hide bingo wings Grin Berry lips and big curls.

I have a grey coat - toyed with LK Bennett cropped jacket but think it might get too cold later?

I LOVE that look, Mulberry - guess I am wearing the dress & winter version!

OB dress looked ok, better dressed down with the boots, but I think he will suggest dinner & it might be better for that...

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 17:27

About to leave house - have fabulous evening Remus and anyone going out!

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JesusTapdancingChrist · 13/04/2018 17:31

Your final outfit sounds fab littlepill. Hope you have a great night and get a good snog Grin.

Have fun!

JesusTapdancingChrist · 13/04/2018 23:30

Hope you had or are still having a great night @littlepill Smile.

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 23:33

Hello! Just got home! FAB night - but but but... I need quick advice...

Ok. Might help you to know I have ASD and I think he is a bit socially awkward/shy. It has been 4 dates now with the minimal of body contact but we both have OCD symptoms (think his is quite severe but he functions well).

I gave him a lift to his house. There was a bit of a pause. I think I should have hugged him but I had my seatbelt on and kind of lost my nerve.... VERY stilted.

Am now waiting for him to text - do I allude to it? Shall I say "oh! I meant to hug you goodbye"? Nooo! That sounds wrong!

How was everyone else's evening? The dress was spot on, so THANK YOU all for advice!

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 23:34

Jesus! You dish out good advice...what do I do?! Shock

Why oh why didn't I just reach out and brush off an imaginary fleck of dust on his shoulder? Grin I am sooo shy! He is very grown up and sensible...

Eeek!

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Peakypolly · 13/04/2018 23:40

Be honest littlepill. You wish you had hugged him, tell him that. He probably feels the same anxiety as you

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 23:46

Thank you, Peaky. Yes! I think he feels the same anxiety. But he doesn't talk emotions much, he even told me he keeps it zipped up. Even his texts - all factual, no chit chat.

What do I say!?

"Wish I had hugged you"
Nooooo!
"Have a great rest of weekend. Hugs!"

It is all so awkward!

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Petitepamplemousse · 13/04/2018 23:55

If it’s evening and others will be in workwear always go for dark colours. That way you can be a little dressier or sexier than workwear but without sticking out like a sore thumb.

Petitepamplemousse · 13/04/2018 23:56

Oops sorry missed update!

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littlepill · 13/04/2018 23:59

Grin You are right, though! Everyone was in dark colours and slightly dressier than usual. Then he and I went onto dinner and it was subdued. He made a bit more effort than usual, too. Nice shirt!

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CraftyYankee · 14/04/2018 00:13

Maybe text first instead of waiting for him? Something like "Had a great time, looking forward to seeing you again soon."

It's like a verbal hug without actually using the word hug, which sounds super awkward! Grin

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littlepill · 14/04/2018 00:18

Crafty yes, the word 'hug' even sounds super awkward. Not good at using those words! Thank you for help! Think I will leave it until the morning, as have been home a while now. On first date he texted me the next day, so think it will be fine...

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BlueEyedWonder · 14/04/2018 08:06

OP this is a lovely thread and I’m now invested heavily Smile
Did you text him? Did he text you?

ThinkingQueSeraSera · 14/04/2018 10:41

@JesusTapdancingChrist where did you get your leopard shirt from? I've been looking for something just like that for months but can only find horrid material ones

Bloomed · 14/04/2018 13:07

All sounds good OP. Wouldn't overthink it and would just hug him the next time. Not a bad idea to build some chemistry Wink

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littlepill · 14/04/2018 13:18

Hello BlueEyed and Bloomed

Ha ha invested! It is all so measured and careful. In the end I wrote something along the lines of "Thanks for fun eve, dinner was delicious. Realised afterwards I should have hugged you but seat belt was in the way! Let's meet again soon" -- this is along the same lines as the tone he has set.

Often we don't text each other back for a few days, so I expect he won't reply for a bit. It is so stilted! You're right, build up a bit of chemistry. I did notice that when he saw me, he sat up close and our arm & leg were almost touching (I had been joined by one of his friends while waiting for him and he sat opposite). Hmm. Grin Am rubbish at this!

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BlueEyedWonder · 15/04/2018 00:51

I hope it works out as you wish OP

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