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surgery mistake

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tootruetoyou · 03/04/2018 18:44

Feeling really silly and as if I am being punished for my vanity - I have always had large undereye bags but approaching 50 years old they really began to bother me as they were even bigger and wrinkly. I opted for lower lid surgery with a reputable surgeon who only does eyes. Trouble is I am unhappy with the results. One eye is perfect but the other just looks odd and I am now embarrassed to smile (because that's when they look worse) which makes me sad. The surgeon acknowledged that the first operation had had limited success and he did the unsuccessful eye again at no extra cost. My problem now - it is still not great. My question - where do I go from here? I am due to see the surgeon next month but I almost feel embarrassed to say that I am still not happy. However, it is bothering me a lot and I am becoming a bit obsessed about it.

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DervlaMcDiamond · 03/04/2018 18:48

Can you post a picture of the eye area?

My mother had eyebag surgery and it took a long time to ‘settle’.

I’m sorry you’re unhappy with the results☹️ I’m sure other people don’t notice it the way you do.

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tootruetoyou · 03/04/2018 18:57

Thanks Dervla - will try to get a pic to upload but I have been avoiding being photographed!! Maybe I just need to be patient - it is only just 3 months since he did the last operation

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redcaryellowcar · 03/04/2018 19:10

I'm not sure if you are able to make a medical negligence claim, but might be worth 'phoning a company (check out a legal guide like chambers and partners to find A top clin neg department in your region) they will be blue to tell you fairly quickly if you are able to peruse if it's not been done satisfactorily and I imagine would send you to another independent surgeon for a report/ review?

DairyisClosed · 03/04/2018 19:13

You should definitely tell him that you are not pleased. Hopefully

LostInShoebiz · 03/04/2018 19:13

Has there actually been a surgical mistake or has one eye just not taken very well? They're two very different things.

Were you warned about the potential discrepancy between the two eyes? That's a fairly standard warning with eye surgery.

Oblomov18 · 03/04/2018 19:14

Why are you embarrassed to tell him that you aren't happy? It's simple enough to say 'I'm afraid I have to tell you that I'm not happy'.

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tootruetoyou · 03/04/2018 19:34

It's not negligence and the surgeon is a really nice guy who I trust. Think I am just grappling with feeling silly for doing it in the first place and I am not that good at being assertive when it comes to things like this.
Probably best to discuss it with him when I see him next month and it might have calmed down some more by then anyway. The other eye is perfect!
Appreciate the advice x

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tootruetoyou · 03/04/2018 19:49

Ok, here is a photo. eek!

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Tantpoke · 03/04/2018 20:22

You are not being silly, there is definitely a difference.

You need to be very insistent that he sorts out the other eye, this is not a time to be shy about it.
He should want to make it right so I'm sure it will get sorted with a big nudge from your direction.

notapizzaeater · 03/04/2018 20:27

That is a big difference - has he said what he can do ?

lovemylover · 03/04/2018 22:49

You are not being unreasonable in not being happy with the result
I had a similiar problem years ago, but actually worse than yours,
One eye had the lower lid kind of loose and away from the eue, which gave me one big eye and one smaller
You do look to still have bags under them,
Not sure if you can sue for medical negligence
I suedand won my case for £10000 but also so did a lot of others so didnt bode well for the surgeon he was just negligent
Go back and tell him. i would not be happy at all

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tootruetoyou · 09/04/2018 10:23

Hi - you responded to my post about eye bag surgery. Just wondering - did you eventually get it fixed to your liking or did you just get the compensation and accept the imperfection of your surgery?

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lovemylover · 09/04/2018 11:34

tootruetoyou i didnt get it fixed as i couldnt find anyone to take it on,
I w although i got that compensation, i owed a lot to the bank as i had got a loan out to have the op done in the first place

I was told by one surgeon that it would need a skin graft,and and would probably still not look right, so i let nature take its course and it improved over time, but the lower klid is still not as close to the eye as it should be,
It isnt that noticeable now except that it looks a bit bigger than my other eye
Although i think only me notices it more than others do

lovemylover · 09/04/2018 11:35

Meant to say it ruined what should have been a confidence booster as i ended up wearing tinted glasses for a long time

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tootruetoyou · 09/04/2018 12:14

Thank you for responding with your experience. I know exactly what you mean about ruining your confidence. I now think I look better with glasses on.
I am seeing the surgeon again on 8th May and he has been very reasonable so far so I hope he will continue to be like this. He did a revision free of charge but it has made no difference!
Oh dear, the price of vanity!! Wish I had never started this - I looked better before.

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Oneapenny · 09/04/2018 12:34

You’re right that there is a difference but which one are you happy with and which one went wrong?

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tootruetoyou · 09/04/2018 13:07

I really like the one with the smaller bag and that is what I thought both would look like. The one with the large bag is more or less what I had before but it looks worse now because the other one is so nice and now it is uneven. At least before they both looked the same!

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lovemylover · 09/04/2018 14:33

Your eyes are very much like mine were, [are] one slightly larger than the other, but you should have no bags at all now,i know what you mean, about looking better before,
Can i ask where you had them done, [only if you want to] it wont be my surgeon i beliee hes dead now,but my daughter had hers done, and although the eyes were even,she still had bags,but not as pronounced
What exactly did your surgeon do re;revision
My daughter is paying another surgeon to have one of her euyes, corrected,[next week],the lid on one is still dropping more than the other

Dvg · 09/04/2018 14:43

I agree its uneven, must say though your face is beautiful! Your eyes are a really nice colour and your skin is perfectly tanned with faded freckles, so pretty!!

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tootruetoyou · 09/04/2018 15:22

Awww, thanks Dvg, nice to get a boost when you're feeling rubbish. x

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Camdenlife33 · 10/04/2018 01:19

Definitely tell your surgeon that you are not happy when you see him. He will probably see why you aren’t pleased with the results. It’s fair enough if some asymmetry is present as surgery has its limitations, but you have such difference your upper and lower eyelids of each eye - he really needs to balance you out.

Are your eyelids fully healed or is there still some swelling present?

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