Funeral Attire for tomorrow

[lovemynewflowers]

Thinking of wearing this Phase Eight jumpsuit , with a black jacket and black R&B loafers/flats.
Does Black and Navy work for occasions like this ?

This post was quite a lot aimed at "black + navy being ok together"

Hopefully the old dears won't mind!
Surely it's your presence which counts.

I wouldn't.
Navy or dark grey is fine if you don't have any black.

It depends on the funeral doesn’t it? With mainly older people I think navy or a dark grey dress is fine. Not florals unless the deceased is a lady and liked flowers. I have worn a navy suit and black trousers with a plain top and I think it’s best to keep to dark colours and plain. Tailored outfits look best if you are not sure.

Well it's a lady if it makes a difference based on gender , and my grandmother , so quite close to her. Very much doubt she would mind the outfit.

Glad you are wearing something your mum chose with you too, not much else matters then does it!!

I wore a black based but large bright flowers dress to my uncles funeral, it's been worn a few times to parties too and in fact I also wore a party frock to my nans too.

I've also been to a friends funeral where it was requested all attendees wore pink.

Being very practical make sure you have a smart coat as there is often a lot of hanging around outside. I went to a funeral,a few years ago where all the women were in LBJs more suited to nightclubs and they were blue with cold standing around for 45 minutes in sub zero temperatures when the hearse got lost. As the vicar I do a lot of funerals. Dark and plain is what most people wear unless the family request bright colours.

Why did you even ask for people's opinions OP?

@thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts I've been to many many funerals (got 4 in the next month in fact !) and worked many as well, so well prepared for the cold of the church and the outdoors too.

I sometimes wonder why people post on here asking for other people's opinions

So sorry for your losses OP. Sending love and hope you're doing ok.

There is a chance some people will judge but if you're ok with that then you're outfit is fine.

My father's funeral was last month and my DD, who is 20, agonised over what to wear. I assured her that the fact she'd travelled 250 miles to be here for a few hours meant the world to my mother and nobody would mind at all whatever she wore. I honestly didn't notice anyone's clothes but was glad that it wasn't a total sea of black garments! I think the outfit you have planned is fine ..... I have to admit that I don't wear navy and black together but know plenty who do, and it looks fine.

Thank you @Lobsterquadrille2 , I'm only a few years older than your daughter and doing a similar journey also for it , I know they will appreciate the thought given I am so busy on the Saturday.

OP, sorry, am I reading this right - you have your grandmother's funeral tomorrow and your mother's funeral on Saturday?

Are their deaths connected or is this just a terrible coincidence? I'm so sorry you are facing this.

I do understand that choosing a nice outfit can be a useful distraction. Don't worry about what to wear, generally people go for simple and sober, but you should do whatever you want. You're right that just being there is what matters. Wishing you strength for the days ahead.

Bit of a lack of compassion from most of these posts, did you all miss the part where the OP is burying both her mum and grandmother?

OP, I'm so sorry for your losses. I think both outfits are entirely fine,. I've been to funerals of 2 relatives in recent weeks and although some people were entirely in black, most were in dark colors, black, blue, brown, Grey. And a lot of the ladies had floral or patterned blouses on. Most were over 60, so a similar demographic. I think you're at a funeral to mourn and celebrate the life of the deceased. Not to look down your nose at what someone is wearing!

I hope both gp as well as they can do. for the record I wore a navy pinstripe trouser suit to my dads funeral. And a beret, because he loved me in hats

@lovemynewflowers that's really tough, losing your mother and grandmother so close together (have I read that right?) and being so young yourself. Hope that you are ok - really, being there is the important part. I've told my daughter that I want everyone to wear bright colours for my funeral (hopefully a long way off!).

Hope it all goes as smoothly as possible.

I know,
Quite incredible timing on all accounts. My mum was terminally ill with cancer and died at 54, and my grandmother was well into her 80's and died of old age and other general health problems a few days before my Mum. Also got my fiancé's aunt (pneumonia) and my old neighbour (stroke and kidney issues!). You couldn't make it up.

I'm sorry for all your losses...

OP, my mum died of cancer aged 54 too (I was 21). It truly was the hardest time of my whole life and I felt very alone. I hope you have people around you, and I wish you strength.

Condolences for your losses O.P in my experience, when you love and know the person well (as you do) you should wear exactly what you know THEY would like you to wear. On occasions when I haven't been 'close family', I've dressed very conservatively in black as my concern is not to offend the close family iyswim.

You've lost your mother and your grandmother. Wear whatever helps you get through the day. Dress codes don't apply.