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Black for a wedding

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Redtartanshoes · 20/02/2018 14:59

Apologies I know it’s been done eleventy billion times. 🙄

But can I? It’s my fav dress, I’ve had it years but I love it.

It’s my sisters wedding though. I’m Europe. In June.

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InfiniteSheldon · 20/02/2018 15:00

KnitFastDieWarm · 20/02/2018 15:04

I think black is fine for weddings personally as long as you have cheery colourful shoes/bag/Jewellery etc. Basically, if your black outfit would look inappropriate for a funeral, it’s ok for a wedding

Eeeeek2 · 20/02/2018 15:05

Nope definitely not

Eleanorsummer · 20/02/2018 15:06

I wouldn't care if someone wore black to my wedding. Ask your sister if she minds.

nobutreally · 20/02/2018 15:07

Its a lovely frock and you look fab in it, but black is really not a great wedding colour, and even if you accessorise the heck out of it, black in June in a hot country is a bit odd, isn't it? Why not just buy a new frock?!

SwedishEdith · 20/02/2018 15:07

It's only on here I've ever heard of 'no black for wedding' stuff.

HolyMountain · 20/02/2018 15:11

I'd wear black, it looks terrific with a tan then add turquoise accessories.

LondonFoodie1 · 20/02/2018 15:15

If it's the summer and somewhere warm in Europe I think black can look rather fabulous. Especially with some bright accessories!

Pseudousername · 20/02/2018 15:16

Bright accessories, tan, lovely.

Justmuddlingalong · 20/02/2018 15:17

I would see your sister's wedding as an ideal opportunity to buy a brand new dress. Of any colour.

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Redtartanshoes · 20/02/2018 15:18

Well I would ask sis but she’s not on my list of fav people currently... she asked me to be bridesmaid then changed her mind but hasn’t actually told me

Was thinking lovely accessories. It’s an Italian wedding. They always wear black with big sunglasses and a good blow dry surely?

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Redtartanshoes · 20/02/2018 15:19

Costing over £1k for flights and hotel, hence not being fussed on buying new dress, as had presumed she would be buying it

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HolyMountain · 20/02/2018 15:19

I think you'll look stunning.

UsernameInvalid66 · 20/02/2018 15:20

I absolutely love the shape of that dress and I was going to suggest that you might be able to get away with it if you wore a colourful scarf or jacket and shoes with it, but now I see it's in Europe. Depending on the country, it may be absolutely normal to wear black for a wedding there. I know they do it in Italy. Do your homework and you may find there's nothing to worry about, but if you're not sure, just wear gorgeous colourful accessories with it.

BubblesBuddy · 20/02/2018 15:23

It was a bit presumptuous to think she would pay. Looks like Black is making a point and that you cannot be bothered to wear anything other than an old dress. I am surprised you are going at all in the circumstances.

ShotsFired · 20/02/2018 15:24

I wore black to a UK wedding (black and white top, black trousers, black jewellery). It never occurred to me for a minute not to, and I thought I looked quite nice .

I had no idea that made me a walking faux-pas!

(Well, if anyone was offended it'll at least save me the absolute bore of future clothes shopping.)

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Redtartanshoes · 20/02/2018 15:27

Bubbles... in my experience if you ask someone to be a bridesmaid, and ask them to wear a specific dress then you pay for it surely? It’s what I did.

It’s nothing to do with it being an old dress, it’s my favourite, and I would probably end up spending another £150 on accessories/shoes

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DaphneduM · 20/02/2018 15:28

Beautiful dress. With stylish coloured accessories it will look fab. I love the whole Italian look. I was mother of the bride last year. I got a beautiful vibrant Italian silk jacket- ivory background with coral, red, gold and black really bold pattern, so wore a very plain black shift underneath. Accessorized with red patent Roger Vivier pumps and red fascinator. In the evening I just wore the dress (bardot style) with loads of bling jewellery and rose gold sandals. I don't believe in all the 'rules' apart from obviously something white or cream which looks too bridal. I certainly wasn't going to compromise my usual style for the boring MOB thing. And my daughter loved it!!!!!

Mamia15 · 20/02/2018 15:30

I wore a black short sleeved silk dress for a wedding and it was fine, it meant not having to buy a new outfit - I think with brightly coloured bag/shoes etc you'll be fine.

thedevilinablackdress · 20/02/2018 19:36

As long as you don't turn up with a massive black hat, veil and shades holding a lace-edged hankie it's all good 😉

SnackMaBitchUp · 20/02/2018 19:46

I'd wear black for a wedding! Honestly, as long as your smart and just a bit done up I'd not bat an eyelid at any colour at weddings as long as you didn't turn up in a wedding gown
But if in a warm climate, you may get a bit overheated. Just a thought

Littlemissamy · 20/02/2018 19:56

Ooh that looks lovely! You could go full Audrey Hepburn and wear some pearls, a hat, and some big sunglasses. You’ll look fabulous dahhhling!

SheepyFun · 20/02/2018 20:05

Depends what else you wear with it - I'd ask myself 'is this entire outfit (shoes, accessories etc.) suitable for a funeral?' If the answer is yes, then maybe not for a wedding!

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