Children's funeral outfits

[greengorilla]

How do I dress 2 and 8 year old girls and 4 and 6 year old boys for a funeral?
It's next Tuesday and I'm stuck.

For the boys we did school trousers, white shirt and a black tie (the only thing we bought), and school shoes. Normal coats
My DD had a black dress, black tights and school shoes on. Again, normal coat

Normal clothes. Maybe not jogging bottoms and hoodies, or anything really scruffy, but no-one will care what kids wear and they will be more comfortable if they're not forced into something they don't like. School uniform if nothing else.

Smart trousers for the boys (grey, navy or black). There school trousers will be fine. Smart shoes- again school shoes would be fine. And I would buy a plain dark-coloured shirt for both of them. And their coats that they usually wear, as long as there not a bright colour.

For the girls, black/grey/navy tights and denim skirts would be fine or a dark coloured dress and cardigans.

I would avoid bright colours and big patterns.

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For my mum's funeral I let my daughters (4 and 8) choose what they wanted to wear. They were very close to my mum, and having a bit of control over the day helped them.

I don't think anyone at a funeral judges children's outfits, especially if they were close. Maybe see what they would feel comfortable in?

Normal clothes, as long as they are clean and tidy (and not joggers etc) they'll be fine.

remember crem chapels and or churches tend to be cold and draughty so make sure they have hats/gloves/ scarves.

My son wore at age 5 a pair of navy trousers with a pink shirt and his cousins wore their party dresses (was a childs funeral and appropriate) for his nanas funeral he wore navy trousers and a pale blue shirt with his school shoes. For the girls a dress in a darker colour, maybe a plum/navy courdroy style with a cardi. Im not a fan of children in black at funerals, they can still be smart and respectable in darker softer colours.

At Dad's funeral my DDs were preschoolers, they both wore navy dresses that they already had. More usable post-funeral than black as well.

For my DH's funeral my then 14 & 11 yo's wore smart jeans (black and dark blue), 14yo wore a steel blue/grey shirt and 11yo wore a bright red one.
They were in fact the same clothes they had worn to our wedding the year before.

At my dads funeral last week, the children wore smart clothes. Not black, just smart and darker. Some others were in school uniform.