I got 'the look' from a shop assistant in a really expensive shop today....

[Bejazzled]

Background - we are in Northern Italy having a bit of a touring around holiday for DHs birthday - and between humid weather, none of my usual products and having just spent 3 hours on a windy ferry I looked like I had been dragged through the hedge backwards 3 times!

I saw beautiful shoes in the shop window and DH insisted we go in (I never would have myself) I saw her do it, not in a nasty way but it was clear she thought I was in the wrong place with my Rainmac and trainers 😁 We bought the shoes £££ and she couldn't have been nicer after that! Sorry - long and wittering but it's my 'pretty woman' moment.

Omg wheresmyphone but they are famously tiny so don't fret!

I was in a shop in Switzerland. Killing time before a conference - I'm quite a big girl and the woman literally said "I'm sorry but these clothes won't fit you" cunt

Similar ... I'm a little overweight. Went into Blacks (Millets) and asked if they had any SIMs (camping mats). Chap looks me up and down in silence before saying "yes but they are for hiking and you are OBVIOUSLY not going hiking"

Amazon didn't insult me and years later the sims are just fine.

wanker

Only thing I ever want from Harrods is black jelly beans (which is lucky because it's all I can afford in there) and I do find the sales staff lovely.

Snootiest staff I've ever come across seem to be in cheaper shops. ASDA staff can be very unpleasant.

I think I need to know more about these black jelly beans - why so special ?

Skincarejunkie... That's what I tell myself every time I feel like I am getting The Look.

I`ve told this story before and I believe it to be true Chris Evans wanted to view a house in Beaulieu - very expensive part of the new forest and was brushed off by snooty estate agent who thought this scruffy young man was not the type to have Beaulieu money - big mistake!

An assistant at Harvey Nicks, Edinburgh insisted it was fine for my then 2 year old to try on all the designer sunglasses. She must have spent the rest of the day cleaning them.

Estate Agent story here too. Selling our first house as mid 20 somethings with a very well known Liverpool EA. We went in to sign some documents. Got to the desk and before either of us could open our mouths the woman at reception said, "this isn't rental. You're in the wrong office. This is for buying and selling only. Rental is round the corner." Oooof. We did look very young but it made me mad she judged us and most likely not on looking young (and gothy) alone.

I was in Harrods with my aunt as a child (mega treat) and she was introducing me to lobster. When it was served she asked for Worcester sauce. The waiter said 'We DO NOT serve our lobster with Worcester sauce!' to which my aunt replied 'If I want my lobster with tomato ketchup then that is my decision now fetch me the manager'. The waiter had obviously then gone into the kitchen ridiculing the 'commoner' as within a couple of minutes the chef came out and came to our table and apologised for having omitting worcester sauce from the sauce and said it was in the recipe but he had forgotten to put it in. The manager then gave us the meal for free. My aunt happens to be a chef and as all good seafood chefs know a lobster bisque has worcester sauce in it and to leave it out leaves it lacking.

Makes us sound like total snobs but we are really commoners - we just know how a good lobster should taste ;)

I wonder if I don't get it because I really don't care and it's likely if I did get a look/questionninwould probably ask something to make them squirm.

Not quite a confidence thing but..I don't know the fuck off vibe ?

In the case of the estate agents above probably "What makes you assume im renting and not buying ?"

Please tell me you said something ?

DH and I are pretty scruffy and do get this look from time to time, double checking our tickets in airline lines etc. The last time I really noticed it was when I was picking up the keys to the last house we bought. I was was looking particularly scruffy due to house moving and had to pick up the keys from the rather smart EA, the lady behind the desk looked at me as is If I crawled out from under a stone and asked in a very doubtful tone of voice if she could help me, once I explained why I was there her whole tone changed. People make very superficial judgements.

Went into hospital where I go every 3 months for tests - was unusually dressed in jeans, sweatshirt and no makeup (normally make an effort to be smart!). Receptionist on desk looked me up and down and 'You do know this is the PRIVATE ward, don't you?" Yes love, I do know that as I've been coming to this ward every 3 months for the past 4 years you judgemental cow!

And another one, due to above illness, am carrying extra weight so was a size 16, 5'8 tall. Walked into a new boutique store to have a browse and the store assistant, ignoring everyone else browsing, comes scurrying over to say 'um, we only do ONE size here'.... to this day I wish I had responded with a cutting comment, but was so upset (not happy about my weight) that I turned on my heal and just walked out, trying not to cry.

Small consolation was that they went out of business within a month....

@Youcanttaketheskyfromme DH who was DP then clammed up so I did my best death stare and said something along the lines of. "We have an appointment with x to sign x forms. We are selling with you." Turned to cowering DH and said, "well, we were. Should we go elsewhere?"
She did look a bit sheepish after that.
Also made a joke to the EA about almost beibg chucked out. She didn't laugh.

Nicely done justine

Can’t understand people being so judgemental. I worked in Tescos & treated everyone as I would like to be treated. I was very happy to be told that my customer service skills were exceptional.

Black jelly beans are special because I only like the black ones so buy a bag of black ones without the other wanky colours mixed in.

There also used to be a shop in Wells you could buy them but it's gone now.

You can get them online but they lose their appeal if they're posted.

I don't understand all those shops that tell overweight people that their clothes won't fit them - they could presumably be looking at bags, scarves etc.

I went to a place last week which was a garden with a very nice gift shop. After a walk around the garden in my outdoorsy clothes, messy hair - I tried on a £40 hat in the shop. The SA tidying the shelves looked appalled that I was trying on the hat. And then kept her eye on me for the rest of the visit. I didn't buy anything.

I've never had this problem, but I don't tend to make eye contact with sales assistants until I need help. I also have a habit of feeling fabric, crumpling it in my hand, checking how the lining hangs, etc. They may well be watching me actually. But I'm just too self-involved to notice them