Nothing to wear for Dad's funeral

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My dear dad passed away last Sunday. I've booked his funeral for two weeks time and have realised I have nothing suitable to wear, I tend not to do black (I'm very pale), have nothing smart left, have gained a lot of weight and neglected myself for a few years!

So I need an outfit but have almost forgotten how to dress and haven't been to a funeral before. It does need to be black as he was a traditional old fogie and while he'd laugh at bits I have planned for the funeral he'd be highly upset with people not dressing in what he'd consider a respectable manner!

So, any help please? I'm a very fat hour glass with giant boobs, which can make things appear more revealing than they would on others!

I'm so sorry for your loss
Would a wrap dress with a family underneath work?

*with a cami!

Evans

Do you have black trousers and shoes? Those and a white shirt with a dark coat on top would be fine. Or look in the sales for a plain black round necked dress. So sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss. Do you have a simple dark coat- that could cover up a lighter dress? If black does not suit you - could you get away with a dark skirt and top? People seem to wear simple formal clothes to funerals.

Any dark colour is fine for a funeral, even a traditional one.
So sorry for you OP

I wore a charcoal dress with black tights and cardi for FIL's funeral. Still sombre without being too harsh.

Have to admit that it's not the best time of year for obtaining simple dark formal clothes.

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Yours Clothing
Yours wrap dress

A shirt won't work with serious boobs, will gape.

M and S do wide leg trousers in stretch material which are smart, comfy and forgiving of the more ample figure

If you can find a reasonable top to go with?

The yours wrap dress is very nice. I'm sorry for your loss and hope you're ok.

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. Funeral shopping is shitty.

What is your usual style? I think it helps to be in something you at least don't feel completely out of your comfort zone.

So sorry for your loss.

We buried my father in law yesterday, and people came in all sorts of outfits and colours.

However, if you want to err on the side of caution, but you probably won't wear it again (it'll always be the funeral outfit) you could try a local charity shop or two, get a black dress and add a pair of opaque tights and any dark coloured shoes or boots you have.

I wore a black knee length black dress with tights and flat boots, it was a dress I'd had for a Christmas party (it wasn't low cut, or short) but I know I'll never wear it again.

Or you could look for a black scarf or shawl, just for the funeral? No one will be passing judgement on your clothing, just do the best you can x

http://www.marksandspencer.com/drape-3-4-sleeve-shift-midi-dress/p/p60108119?image=SD011T591515NNY0XXEC90&color=BLACK&prevPage=plp

Any good?

Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss

Secondly, no one will really notice what you are wearing unless you wear something startling or inappropriate. Black may make you look like shit but if you think that's what your dad would have wanted, that's irrelevant. People are really really not going to be looking at you and thinking, "hmm, black doesn't suit her" at a funeral.

Are you OK to go out and buy something specifically?

For my dad's funeral, I wore a pair of grey trousers which I already had and bought a loose fitting black top from Sainsbury. My sister wore a navy blue dress. My mum wore a long black skirt and a black and white print top. We didn't look like all those chic women in elegant black suits in the media but we couldn't give a toss about that.

I am sorry for your loss, I am a 16 and wore one of the winser miracle dresses to my dads funeral.

Only downside was it was expensive but I thought as it was classic I may get some wear from it. Truth is I can't bear to wear it, not had to go to a funeral since but I think it may now be my funeral dress.

Try Bravissimo - I have just had a quick look and they have quite a few black dresses for around £60. Sorry I can't do links. They are designed for big boobs so cover you up like they are supposed to!

Sorry for your loss

You poor thing,I'm so sorry X

Black trousers would be fine and perfectly acceptable funeral wear.

So sorry for your loss- don't spend lots of money on something that you won't want to wear again like pp said. Go to your nearest charity shop and get a black/grey dress or smart trousers then you can re-charity shop them.

Navy is also a perfectly acceptable funeral colour.

Something like this?

m.wallis.co.uk/en/wluk/product/black-wrap-dress-6766683

It also comes in purple which is a traditional mourning colour.
Sorry for your loss