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Can I wear a cream lace top to a wedding?

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:23

Or will the bride hate me?

I've just ordered a lovely rust coloured skirt for a September wedding and I think i need a cream top to go with it.
I've seen one I really like but I'm worried it could be similar to the top half of a wedding dress.
I have no idea what the bride is actually going to wear, she's said herself it's all very informal, so I might have nothing to worry about but is it just a big no no?
I don't know what other colour would go well with it. The skirt is plain so I could look for something with a pattern on.

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Pouffealouffe · 11/08/2017 08:24

I think that sounds fine! It's not as if you're going to be wearing a long white dress...! Sounds lovely. Do you have a photo?

MrsJayy · 11/08/2017 08:28

Ive worn a cream lacy top to a wedding it was fineonce you see the bride you see its not bridal at all. I did see somebody wear a lacy coloutte (sp) jumpsuit it was very bridal but she hated the bride apparently so was on purpose

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:29

Not me in the photo and the skirt is highwaisted so no one will have to endure staring at my belly button Grin

Can I wear a cream lace top to a wedding?
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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:31

I don't think the bride is my biggest fan (not that she'd ever admit it) so I don't want to wind her up on her wedding day.
She likes vintage stuff so I have in my head that she might wear a bardot tea dress kind of thing. There's also a good chance she'll wear black.

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NYConcreteJungle · 11/08/2017 08:33

If you don't like each other don't wear it.

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:36

We don't hate each other, as far as I know anyway Grin

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outputgap · 11/08/2017 08:36

I wouldn't. It's very bridal, especially with that neckline.

Maybe a cream jacket would be OK, but that top is too bridal in style.

I'm sure lots of people would disagree with me. (At my wedding, I wouldn't have noticed or minded but people get the right hump about weddings so I'd swerve it.)

Blondielongie · 11/08/2017 08:36

If she's not a fan of yours, do you think she has told you it is informal so you don't dress up too much and look more beautiful than her.
I think what you are planning to wear sounds really nice. What's the skirt like shape wise?

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:43

I don't think I would have cared or noticed what anyone wore to my wedding, but that's easy for me to say since it was just the two of us. I didn't even know all the rules/traditions about different colours until recently...apart from not turning up in a long white dress, obviously.

Ha, Blondie, you might have a point. A recent compliment definitely felt like an insult Grin

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:45

Oh it's pencil skirt style, to the knee, with a bit of a split up one side.

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 08:47

Hmmm I say pencil skirt but maybe wrap skirt is a better description...its straight anyway!

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Loyly · 11/08/2017 08:51

I wouldn't wear it to a wedding. The colour and the lace are too bridal. Plus, when you're sitting, obviously only the top part of your outfit is seen and it would look even more bridal with your skirt hidden.

0ccamsRazor · 11/08/2017 08:53

Olive or chocolate brown would go well with rust colour?

Pouffealouffe · 11/08/2017 08:54

OP, I still think it's a nice outfit and won't offend the bride! What shoes are you wearing? To me it just sounds like a nice summery outfit.

Pouffealouffe · 11/08/2017 08:54

I just wrote 'outfit' too many times and it sounds odd...Grin

AuntieStella · 11/08/2017 09:04

I wouldn't. Cream lace is just too bridal.

Does the top come in any other colours? Could you dye it?

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 09:05

I did think that Loyly, or if anyone takes a photo that's just from the waist up it could look bad.

Ooh I love olive. Worried I'd look too try hard autumnal palette though if that makes sense? Maybe an olive/brown pattern?

Pouffe, I have sort of tan heels with gold bits. Or gold strappies if it's hot. Also...outfit Grin

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Blondielongie · 11/08/2017 09:11

Where is the top from? Can you link it? Smile

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BurgundyCloak · 11/08/2017 09:27

It's just on eBay Blondie, says ex Topshop.

Although I've just found a lovely top that might work depending on exact colours.
The skirt should be here today so I'll see what it's like in real life and make sure it's actually what I'm going to wear and go from there I guess.

Can I wear a cream lace top to a wedding?
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Blondielongie · 11/08/2017 09:37

Ah that's nice, might be safer to wear a non-white top. I found an amazing cropped white top (similar to yours but not off the shoulder) in the zara sale. And wish I had two.

Feawen · 11/08/2017 09:46

I think the second top is lovely.

The first top is hit-or-miss - some brides wouldn't notice, and some wouldn't care, but others would mind. I wouldn't wear cream lace to a wedding for that reason, but I also genuinely think the second top is much nicer!

kel1234 · 11/08/2017 09:49

I wouldn't wear that to a wedding personally..

Winterc00kie · 11/08/2017 09:49

No. I wouldnt wear it.

Why cant people just have one day - a wedding where they dont wear white, ivory, cream.....

I havent been married (yet!) and I wouldnt dream of doing that to the bride whether i loved or hated her

AliciaMayEmory · 11/08/2017 09:49

Both tops are lovely, but I particularly like the second top.

LoniceraJaponica · 11/08/2017 09:52

How would you cover up the first top if it was a chilly day?

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