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Jewellery from your ex

10 replies

NC4now · 03/08/2017 22:16

I need a necklace to wear with a V neck dress. I have a perfect one that my ex (children's dad) gave me for a big birthday.
I also have a gorgeous diamond solitaire necklace he gave me when DS1 was born.
I never wear either because I feel like it's cheating on DH (well not exactly cheating, but disloyal in some way).
Do you wear jewellery from your ex?

OP posts:
dudsville · 03/08/2017 22:21

It's not cheating. It's stuff you own. Do you attach meaning to the items that would be uncomfortable for your DH if he knew, or are you ok with them and just worried about him?

ThanksForAllTheFish · 03/08/2017 22:33

I'm not big on jewellery but I still have a few bits and bobs from ex's and I keep them and use them because they are mine and not really about the ex.

My DH has a silver bracelet he wears every day and that was given to him by an ex many, many years ago. He wears it because he likes it and I really don't mind - it's only jewellery. I would maybe draw the line at someone wearing engagement or wedding rings from an ex - I feel that's weird as it has a greater significance attached to it.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 03/08/2017 22:42

I had a diamond pendant remodelled. The setting was a bit fussier than I would have liked anyway.

ASqueakingInTheShrubbery · 03/08/2017 22:43

I still wear jewellery that an ex gave me, only cheapy silver rings and necklaces, but I like them and it's been so long that they're just my things now. I don't wear, and should eBay, the expensive Tiffany necklace that a knobhead ex gave me. I've got a tattoo that DXP designed for me. A bit of silver is a mere wisp in comparison. (I've never told DH that bit, I don't think he needs to know. If it did bother him, there's be sod all he could do about it.)

KarmaNoMore · 03/08/2017 22:46

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LostInShoebiz · 03/08/2017 23:10

I don't feel the slightest bit bad or disloyal. It's my jewellery that was a gift to me, no different from something from my mum or a friend or that on that I bought myself.

HorseDentist · 03/08/2017 23:17

My engagement ring from an ex was truly the most beautiful piece of jewellery I have ever seen. I still wear it regularly, just on the other hand. I love the ring, just not the ex. He was happy for me to keep it when we parted as he knew my attachment to it.

It's not too engagementy, gemstone rather than diamonds. Subsequent partners have not been told the significance of the ring. They only know that it is my favourite and will never part with it.

Mrscropley · 03/08/2017 23:19

I gave it to charity.

Along with my 2 grand wedding dress. .

CruzRamirez · 03/08/2017 23:25

This has got me thinking about a lovely necklace I own that an ex gave me. I never wear it but I think I will. So true from PPs that it is simply one of MY possessions.

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 04/08/2017 11:43

I never think about where a particular item of jewellery came from. If I like it, I wear it. It's mine - I can do what I like with it.

Even if an item does carry some significance and reminds you of a certain person, we're all entitled to a past, and allowed to keep mementoes of the people and experiences that have made us who we are.

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