Has anyone had cosmetic surgery that they regret?

[pearlkent]

If so, how did you deal with it mentally and practically? I've had a procedure that didn't work out (not the result I envisaged and I have scarring etc) and am having a hard time dealing with it. I feel ashamed that I did it so can't talk about it to anyone. The whole experience has made me withdraw from social events and avoid friends. I know this is a bit vague but I don't really want to go into detail online (yet). It was a facial procedure and was done in the UK by a proper surgeon (ie. I didn't go for cut-price surgery or abroad). Does anyone know of support groups for this sort of thing and/or good facial plastic surgeons (in this country) who might be able to fix things?

No I haven't had surgery but am booked in for fat transfer to my chin as I feel I have a receded chin. Im worried about spending money and not getting the desired effect I want as well but feel it's worth the risk as I'm very insecure about it. As for coping with the after effects of it not going well I've convinced myself that we tend to overthink our own flaws anyway that others don't notice and people in general have a million other things going on in their heads that we are insignificant. It's okay to avoid people we know for a while-it's okay not to be okay sometimes-but talk to a good friend about it as maybe they will give you some reassurance that you need

Also I plan on doing highlights before surgery so people notice my hair more and hence no questions regarding I look different etc

A relative of mine had a nose job and was really unhappy with it, similar circumstances in that it was in the UK by a recommended surgeon and pricey. She went back and he offered to redo it. It's better aesthetically the second time around but is always tender now and there have been issues with how the skin looks too and still not what she hoped for. Have you talked to your surgeon about it?

Turquoisa, please rethink getting fat transfer to the chin - soft tissue can never replicate boney structure. Fat transfers are notoriously unpredictable at the best of times and I'm amazed a surgeon would recommend it to disguise a receeded chin.

A sliding genioplasty is what you need, it's a pretty routine procedure if you go to a (good) registered maxillofacial surgeon. I can recommend a some names if you like.

Yes - rhinoplasty in Belfast. Pretty disastrous aesthetically and technically really.
I haven't worked out how to deal with it.. The best days are when I don't obsess /google/scrutinise and convince myself that others don't notice.
But then if I was good at that I wouldn't have "needed" it in the first place.
Anyway, you have my sympathy.

Janet - I thought the same about the Fat transfer, I know they can fix some chin issues through orthodontics and my friend was a maxfax nurse and used to talk about 'le fort osteotomy' for facial issues. I'm not a medical person but surely fat might not settle or might be absorbed ?

Yeah, the FT might well be absorbed or worse still it might stick around and end up sagging. Bad move whichever way you look at it.

The lefort is upper jaw surgery, horridly invasive but potentially amazing results to fix bite and aesthetic issues. Much better idea to fix the foundations of the face instead of fannying about trying to camouflage issues with procedures being sold by surgeons who aren't trained to do maxfax work.

Oh dear part of me has thought this as fat can be reabsorbed and then that's 2k down the drain-but the breaking of jaw and repositioned is too scary and I'm late 30s now so don't mind camouflaging stuff..just don't want to waste money but also it's something I feel so paranoid and insecure about. Sigh -wish I had been born picture perfect (ok pointless-genetics got everything in the right place..just to not my aesthetic standard which has probably been set by society and media) thanks for the advice

A genioplasty is only the chin being moved out for more projection, that's might be enough in your case.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do

An old friend gave up her life savings to have a breast reduction.

All great at first but no one told her and she never researched properly that for some people breast tissue grows back. Over a few years her breasts grew back. Complete waste of her money and probably not helped by her only wearing cheap ill fitting bras.

Jennifer Gray

www.plastic-surgery-mistakes.com/jennifer-greys-nose-job/

www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/jennifer-grey-on-patrick-swayze-dirty-1274628

Turquoisa I'm not an expert but have you looked into chin implants? I can't imagine how fat transfer to the chin would work, and an implant seems less invasive than jaw surgery. Whatever you do, make sure you go for lots of consults and ask lots of questions.

Janet, could you PM me the names of surgeons you recommend so that I can get some second opinions?

ElzBelz, thanks for your advice. I have talked the surgeon and he has offered to redo it, but I'm a bit apprehensive, to say the least, about going through it all again.

I had a breast reduction in my 20s (back when it was possible to get the surgery on the NHS) and had a pretty rough recovery. As a previous poster has mentioned, it is possible for the breast tissue to grow back and it has in my case. I guess I regret all the pain I put myself through, all for nothing.

These days I'm more confident about my boobs, though I'd still like to be a bit smaller. Good bras and better fitting clothes have helped.