Feeling frumpy

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Only 16 weeks but feeling so very frumpy and can't get my head round dressing so I look semi decent for going out places, have a big party to go to next weekend and although I've spent most of the day shopping, everything I try looks, well, nasty.
It's because of the boobs which will only get worse, it's ok when you are a d cup but when you shoot up to an F it's really difficult to know what to wear that doesn't just hang.

I detest shopping online when I have no clue as to what style will look semi decent. Friend went with me this evening and a couple of times she said ooh that looks really nice when i tried something on but I look in the mirror and see a frumpy body that isn't mine.

Just really needed somewhere to vent where I won't necessarily be judged. I know a lot of it is hormonal but I feel like sobbing because I see all these nice looking pregnant people and feel like a complete elephant next to them.
I'm a 12 normally, but to accommodate the bust line I have to up to 16s. And no where locally actually stocks much in the way of maternity, it's primarily an online order thing.

Why don't you ask MN to move this to style and beauty instead of 'pregnancy'? You'll get plenty of advice

Report your post ask for it to be moved if you want it moved.

There's a style and beauty bit? How do I ask it to be moved please, or rather who?

When I was pregnant, my boobs exploded to the extent that I said if they'd get any bigger I'd need to hire two people to carry one each. When the milk came in, it was like a botched boob job for which most people would sue.

Have you got a decent bra that fits? What you are feeling is totally normal. Usually you are in control of your body but during pregnancy you just aren't anymore. It really is an adjustment. Applying stretch mark oil or cream is a good way to focus on yourself and take a good look - if you are into that sort of thing.

I have stretch marks from the first time round which took a lot of getting used to. But I have a huge obsession with not gaining 3 and a half stone like last time, well slightly over that. I'm sure 90% of this is all mental anxiety because it took so long to get back to me from last time.
Bras fit and I get measured regularly as otherwise I suffer back pain anyways. Need to probably go get done again in the next week or so though.
I'm gaining on average half a pound a week at the moment so 8 lb already which seems excessive but again I think it's a mental hang up as midwife wasn't concerned when i saw her this week.
Does anyone remember that advert a few years back where a normal sized animated woman was looking in the mirror and seeing someone huge staring back (I think I was for something to do with sanitary items) that how I felt today.

Is it really helpful to weigh yourself that often? If you're not pigging out and are making mostly healthy choices does it matter? Like you said, your midwife will tell you if you need to change something. Be kind to yourself!

Morning all! We're going to move this to Style and Beauty for you now, OP. The S&B MNers will find you a fab outfit for your party for sure. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Yes, there's a style and beauty but and it's full of people who are very knowledgeable of things I don't really understand....