Wedding: What does one put on a seven year old girl who rather be put in a cat of her own mucus than in a pretty dress?

[HoneyDragon]

Preferably that will still be considered acceptably cute and adorable by those members of the family that have "standards".

Velvet shorts or culottes, with her waistcoat and bow tie? These are under a tenner (and look rather like what poor old DS wore to a family wedding many moons ago).

Love the shorts and jackets outfits. With a blazer you could probably get away with white converse or similar.

This sort of thing?

This is a nice look.

I was going to say white leggings & a long floaty or sparkly top with a new pair of the 'prettiest' footwear you can get her into - so fancy flip flops if she hates ballet pumps. Though, have you tried actual ballet pumps or soft jaz shoes rather than stiff kids shoes?

However, if she wants to wear shorts & a waist coat etc I'd go with that. I'd probably get her to start off with leggings underneath for the service as it looks more dressy, then she can take them off later on if she wants to.

As you say, with a messy bun & a few sequins it'll be fine.

...anyone that tuts can fuck off 😁

I think the shorts / shirt / waistcoat combo would be absolutely fine. Formal enough for a wedding. No reason she should be forced to be girly if it isn't her thing.

The tutters will tut if she isn't wearing a dress, but they can feck off. Just request Taylor Swift and dance with her to the one that goes "and the haters gonna hate, blah blah blah, shake if off, shake it off". (Sorry I don't know the name - I'm clearly not very cool.)

My Dd wore-

A pair of tailored girls shorts in pale blue, a paler blue t-short that had some embroiderie on the neck but nothing showy, a pair of addidas high tops and a navy bomber jacket with sequin back to a wedding and she looked awesome. I did her hair in a fishtail
Plait and put glitter in her parting and along her cheekbones a la glasto and she everyone loved it! Especially my 5 Dd.

Fuck convention.

How about this with these and this? DS has the shirt and it's lovely IRL.

Potterings jumpsuit it brilliant and would be easier to wear than all the of bits and bobs of a 'boys' outfit.

We are now strict no dresses or skirts honey. And leggings are a no unless under shorts!

I like those Boden shorts, would look cool (yes, nothing can be pretty!) with a black jacket or waistcoat and some flip flops would be a great look.

My mother disapproves of my leniency towards DD's choices but I've said to her as long as when she has to look smart she's smart without foregoing her tastes then that's fine. Personally I hate that everything is so OTT and princessy and I'm proud to have a dimaughter that dares to be different. Her pixie hair has inspired a few other younger girls in her school too ❤️ (Sorry of sounding boastful)

something like sparkly leggings and shirt.

@Dinah - it's Shake It Off!

I was going to suggest tailored playsuit (DD loves hers) but if she's had her own ideas then roll with it.

OP,

Well done your DD for sticking with her own sense of style and identity!

Here's another 7 yr old girl who can't be doing with any conventional wedding restrictions:
www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/this-cool-daughter-of-the-bride-was-the-ring-bearer-at-her-moms-wedding_us_55b16634e4b0a13f9d17f03b

Oh this is great and I'm going to sit with her and go through the links at the weekend.

I'm never usually bothered as she always looks presentable but weddings are a funny thing. At least she can have fun choosing an outfit now.

Do you know what exactly it is that bothers her about " pretty dresses" ?

Colours, like pinks or lilacs ?
Pattern like floral ?
Frills or decoration
Uncomfortable material
Not having the freedom of shorts of trousers

If you could find out exactly , that would help towards a solution. For example, there are lots of play suits that would he fine for a 7yo for a wedding.

www.newlook.com/shop/teens/shop-department/teens-pale-blue-bonded-lace-scuba-playsuit_516658445

This would work if it's shorts / trousers that she wants but not if she dislikes pastel colours.

culotte outfits here

www.next.co.uk/g752364s3

www.next.co.uk/g752362s1

Playsuit in non pastel colour ( red )
www.next.co.uk/g84228s2

Striped dungarees , would be fine with a blazer www.next.co.uk/g752346s1

Denim dress
www.next.co.uk/g75342s2

Denim quilted jacket and playsuit
www.next.co.uk/g6a192s6

I'm guessing it's not fabric or sensory issues as a shirt and bow tie with shorts are much less comfortable than a dress.

Does she actually want to dress in " boys clothes " ( which is fine of course ) or just dislike certain items of " girls clothes " ?

I think you need more information to enable you to address this in general, not just for the wedding. You want her to be happy in her clothes all the time.

What does she wear to school - trousers /shorts / pinafore / skirt - and is she happy with that ? That will give you a clue.

BTW I am have an 18yo DD who doesn't do pretty or frilly either. She's just gone to her high school prom in a very plain dress, minimal make up, no jewellery or fake tan and converse and she was very happy.

She know what style works for her and I hope you and your DD can work that out together.

I have a DD just like that. Her concession to smart occasions is a pair of tailored blue shorts, a blue striped shirt with Ghandi collar, a blue blazer and canvas shoes. All has to be boys cut, she refuses anything from the girls department. She looks amazing though and has never had any negative comments.

My friend's little girl wears suits and it looks lovely and more importantly she is comfortable in it.

It's comfort. She hates proper trousers and jeans. Tights and leggings are fine.

Again soft jersey dresses like H&M sell great but she sees them more like nighties I think for slobbing in when it's hot.

She wears tailored shorts to school. She hates dresses as she's always worried her knickers are on show but doesn't like wearing shorts under the dress as she says it's uncomfortable.

Add to the fact she loves Taylor Swift etcand wants to be a "rock star" at present

Surely she needs a maxi dress then? Any idea what the bridesmaids are wearing? Even this (for all it's frills and faff) looks really comfy compared to the minimum 3 highly structured items needed if she goes the for something suit-ish.

I think a sort of suit would look lovely. Weddings can be funny, but as long as she looks "smart" rather than "everyday" clothes I don't see how anyone could have a problem with it?

I'd get her a lovely little pair of sparkly shorts with tights and little Paton brogues, little ribbed shirt, velvet bow tie, braces and a little blazer and a bowler hat. She'd look super cute!

Boy's suit trousers should be fine. My friend's daughter wore a stylish suit and tie to a wedding we went to recently. Also no need for special hair dos.

DD went to a formal occasion recently wearing a pair of those floaty shorts that look a bit like a skirt but are sewn together underneath. A strappy vest top and a velvet trimmed cardigan that matched a colour in the shorts and a pair of gladiator sandals that she could run around in. Dressy enough but comfy and good for running, climbing and dancing.

No Added Sugar have some nice things - expensive but have a sale on at the moment.
This playsuit is cute: www.noaddedsugar.com/playful-euphoria

This could be a nice outfit too
www.noaddedsugar.com/turn-a-corner-quad-stripe

I love the idea of a mini Annie Hall look with shorts! The girl in the suit with the bride above looks amazing!