Desperate help with childrens funeral wear. (Dc were not attending now are due to unforeseen circumstances.)

[PickledOnion69]

Funeral is Friday morning so next to get this sorted asap for next day delivery. Dc were meant to be at school but now school is closed due to burst water main and flooding. My son has black chinos so I will just order him a white shirt from next so he is sorted. My dd's have the attached dress it is the only black clothing item they own is it ok? If not what should they wear I can't see anything else black on the next site and h&m is down at the moment. They are 5 and 9 and the dress is below there knees unlike the girl in the picture.

I would think this was fine, the last funeral I attended had lots of children and they were not dressed in black anyway (but that was probably the preference of the deceased). Smart and respectful is fine. Hope it goes ok.

Rhe dress looks smart so will be fine.

I'm Irish, so go to plenty of funerals. Children don't need to wear black. Have they school uniform that still looks decent this time of year?

Do they have grey pinafores or skirts for school? I'd put them in those if they do, with a plain top.

Ok glad dresses look ok. They already have them so it makes things much easier, would you pair it with a black or white cardi? They both have white but I can order a plain black if it would be better.

No winter uniform in now to short they are in the summer dresses.

I would go for white as they are children.

Children don't need to wear black, just be dressed in something neat and not too bright. I remember wearing school uniform for funerals when I was younger.

I sort of feel that children are exempt from black, formal clothes for funerals. I would just put them in the most muted colours they own and as smart as possible.

Any children I have seen at funerals have been dressed in their school uniform.

They have loads of other dresses but they are not black. Black in the more traditional colour don't want to offend anyone attending with their outfits.

My primary school aged dc have been to 3 close family funerals this year. Ds wore school uniform with one of his dads ties, one dd wore her favourite flowery blue dress and the other dd wore leggings and a different top for each one.
I don't think there should be any expectation on children to wear black for a funeral. Put them in something that is 'them' and comfy.

Going with those dresses, white cardi and sandles. Problem solved thanks all.

Can I ask what religion it is?

The last funeral I took my (quite small) children to was Methodist, held in a chapel. My background is RC so I found this quite a relaxed occasion in comparison. The children just wore smart dresses/ trousers and shirt. They weren't sombre coloured.

I really wouldn't expect to see children in black at a funeral.

C of E but not religious family at all.

yy to school uniform.

At my uncle's funeral last year (RC) my Ds wore dark blue trousers and a blue shirt, and dd wore a navy dress with tiny white spots and a white t-shirt under it. No one will expect the children to be in black.

Sorry for your loss.

I think that outfit sounds fine PickledOnion69.

At my husbands funeral in April my children (his stepchildren) wore the outfits they had worn to our wedding last year - 14yo was a steel blue shirt & smart black jeans, 11yo was a bright red shirt & smart jeans.