Can I wear this to a wedding?

[GoodGirlGoneWrong]

Hello I have a family wedding in August and due to being on steroids for my bowel disease I have gained 3 dress sizes and nothing to wear. I am hoping to lose some of this weight but it won't be enough before the wedding.

I found this on eBay in my size and wondered would it be ok? DH said it was fine but just wanted to check, as it's been a while since I went to a wedding. I would wear some pale green kitten heals and a pale green borelo I already own (if I can still squeeze into it)

It was a dress I came across and thought it looked pretty, it's been 6 years since I went to a wedding apart from my own, so wanted to check before I went on to buy. It also matches some accessories I already own.

Looks like it's back to the drawing board.

I totally agree with Rapidly. The first one is much nicer than the 2nd, and is, in no way bridal.

Also found this one? Why are they all white or ivory?? I don't want to wear too dark a colour

I have some dusky pink shoes and a dusky pink bag, I think I threw away the cardi tho

Or black I have a black borelo and some black heels.

First and second dresses both lovely, I'd wear either to a wedding. First one doesn't look remotely bridal to me.

The first one is the nicest and I can't see the problem with colourful accessories.

I have sent the bride a whatsapp with the dresses attached and what accessories I was planning - will see what she says! It's her day and I don't want to upset her or the other family members.

First dress is nice and isn't bridal in the slightest.

The first and the third dress are fabulous. I'm not so keen on the dark one.

It's lovely but a bit too close to white I think.

Sorry I hadn't read the whole thing. I was on about the first one although maybe it would be fine. I like the last one you posted too.

Sending bride pics is good idea if you're worried.
I don't think it looks bridal at all op.

The floral dresses with white / light background are lovely and not bridal at all!

First one was lovely especially with green accessories.

Go for it!

With white or nude shoes and no wrap / jacket, I would say no.

With green shoes and a green jacket, crack on!

I'm with mercury!

The first dress is perfect for a wedding. Particularly with green accessories. Go for it and have a lovely time.

The first dress is lovely - definitely go with that one. I had someone wear a short white dress to my wedding, she looked great and it didn't take anything away from me - being the one at the front of the church, holding bouquet with a beaming husband next to me kinda made it obvious who was the bride

Unless you're wearing a veil with it I'd say it's unlikely anyone will mistake you for the bride. Go for it.

If you are worried about comfort, due to bowel disease, would you look at something in this type of shape.....

www.phase-eight.com/fcp/product/phase-eight/shop-all-dresses/zoe-swing-dress/204052250

Not bridal at all... go for the first dress.

I have sent the bride a whatsapp with the dresses attached and what accessories I was planning - will see what she says! It's her day and I don't want to upset her or the other family members.

Good move! Don't say "I like the white one, but don't want to upset you" or anything, in case she feels obliged to say "oh no worries, wear it then". I was a pretty relaxed bride so probably wouldn't have cared, but I think some of the other guests might have raised an eyebrow. It doesn't matter if it isn't quite bridal enough to be mistaken for a wedding dress. If someone wears a white dress to a wedding, someone always comments behind their back ime. Horrible, but true. Maybe it's because I hate inviting that sort of attention that I wouldn't even consider a white dress for a wedding. There are so many other dresses.

Saying this is THE dress and I must wear this only makes it seem as if you're the bride. It doesn't matter enough what other people look like at a wedding, to a point for there to be a "THE dress" iyswim.

All the dresses are nice. Go for the first one with the green accessories.

Bride has sent a whatsapp back saying she doesn't like the dark dress but likes the others 2 (the first one more) and has even sent me some links to another 2 on eBay, which are very cream/beige with big bold printed flowers on, which are both very nice as well. She did say it wouldn't matter if I'd turn up in a bin bag as long as I am there, she also said she wouldn't want me to feel comfortable as I'm very conscious of my weight gain.

I'm glad I asked as I wouldn't have wanted to upset her.