Suitable dress for a wedding?

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Hoping for advice. Not really a dress person but have found a few options for a wedding I'm attending next month, but the one I feel most comfortable/happy in is this long navy dress & I'm not sure how 'wedding' is it.

http://www.phase-eight.com/fcp/product/phase-eight/maxi-dresses/abbie-full-length-dress/204090351

The wedding reception is at a really posh huge stately home type venue which is only hired out for one wedding so it's a pretty grand affair (think Downton Abbey but grander 😳)

If I went for this dress I'd probably get a pashmina & would be wearing something in my hair but can't decide what colour to go with for shoes, accessories, hat, pashmina.

Any ideas lovely ladies? To make things worse, I can't wear heels so shoes would have to be wedge style (i do have navy wedges peep toes & I'm not sure how much the shoes would be seen so they'd possibly be ok). Also, I can't wear necklaces so accessories would have to be in the form of bracelet & earrings. Finally, there's no real option to change for the evening so it'd be something I'd be in til the bitter end.

So any suggestions would be very gratefully appreciated!

It's lovely. You could wear silver sandals and a silvery blue pashmina with that.. :)

I like the dress, but with one big caveat - do you know what colour the bridesmaids are wearing? There is a risk that you might look like one of the bridal party by accident...

Do you have to wear full length?

Oh that's one thing I meant to mention in my original message as I knew the bridesmaid likeness could be questioned. It's a family members wedding & I'm making the cake so I know quite a lot about the colour scheme. The colours for the wedding are pale pastels & the bridesmaids are in light peach so I think (hope) that would be sufficiently different for it not to look like a bridal party dress?!

I thought silver too but like the idea of a silvery blue pashmina. Thanks

Hmm. It is not suitable for a posh wedding in my view. Ok for the party afterwards. Weddings that are in the daytime require formal day dress. Just because the setting is a stately home you do not wear long unless it is an evening do. Try and look at LK Bennett, Hobbs and Phase 8 standard dresses and jackets. Add a modern style hat. Or have a fantastic hairdo. LK Bennett do lower heels. Wedges are just too casual. Loads of lower chunky heeled pumps about too at the moment in Dune and Russell and Bromley.

Sorry, also full length isn't required, I've got a couple of shorter knee length options, but none make me feel as nice as this one.

The other dresses are

https://www.houseoffraser.co.uk/women/phase-eight-myrtle-dress/d802104.pd#257101663

And

https://www.houseoffraser.co.uk/women/jolie-moi-scalloped-v-neck-lace-dress/d710689.pd#249616086

Or

https://www.houseoffraser.co.uk/women/jolie-moi-cap-sleeve-scalloped-lace-dress/d736393.pd#254739899

Out of the last 2 dresses, I preferred one but can't remember which one it was now! But they're both fairly similar.

I like your first one best but in the last 3, I prefer the third one.

The wedding itself isn't actually going to be 'posh' although the venue is. The bride is very much into minimalist & the grand venue (as beautiful as it appears) was mainly picked for its size & ability to cater for the number of guests they're having. So although there is grandeur in the venue, the decor, flowers, cake etc are going to be very much informal. So maybe I shouldn't have stated the grandness of the venue originally.

I like all three of those! Might also be easier if you have any cake duties on the day not to be dealing with a full length dress

My slight preference is for the capped sleeved one, so you probably don't need to worry about a wrap or jacket

Won't have any cake duties on the day thankfully as I'll be getting that sorted the night before. Clear;y wasn't aware that long dresses were a no no for a wedding! So need to decide whether I got for the dress I feel more comfortable/nice in or a compromise to feel more weddingy.