Is it just me?

[HealthyElf]

I am mid forties and I favour a particular look that I feel suits me and I am comfortable with, casual skinny jeans with ankle boots and layered tops and jumpers in the winter. In the summer I tend to wear looser jeans and converse or maxi skirts and vests.

But it's not my clothes that I have a problem with.

Every time I brave a visit to the salon I come out looking middle aged and boring and dare I say it 'safe'.

I have never had hair longer than shoulder length as an adult as I feel it just doesn't suit me. I spend lots of time looking at Pinterest and have found amazing styles that I not only want but feel that I could cope with on a day to day basis.
I would describe these styles as messy/choppy short bobs or long pixies.

I show pictures to the stylist and explain my lifestyle etc but always come out with a smooth Boufy kind of hair that makes me look like a newsreader from the nineties.

It happened again on Monday and now I'm sad

Is it just me that this happens to?

Change your hairdresser! Personally I'd avoid the chain salons and go for a more expensive one with a good reputation.

Remember that a lot of choppy styles are achieved by styling more than cutting. I've recently had my hair cut above my shoulders in a choppy style is frong longer than back and was recommended to buy a curling wand to make it look more boho (ish). I love it!

Haven't found a hairdresser that doesn't transform me into my mother's twin! No matter what I ask for.

Another who feels your pain - even with photos about what I do and don't want.

I have found a new hairdresser. They are young and v v funky which I am not. At 42 I am probably twice the age of the senior stylist. I went in, explained to the lovely guy with the enormous facial piercings you can poke a stick through that I was looking at growing out the grey so needed a cut which had definition to help me manage this and he immediately showed me a whole page of what I am after, had a good look at how my hair grows, chatted about my styling ability. He dismissed a handful of pics as 'mum bobs' and challenged me to go shorter as well as praising my grey. For the first time in about 6 years I actually felt like my hairdresser got me.

My actual appointment isn't for 2 weeks so still don't know how this translates into reality but I'm quite excited! If only I can hear him over the incredibly loud music the youth seem to enjoy.

Wow, this is me. I thought I'd found a great stylist - she transitioned me out of a short cut, but as my hair is getting longer (bra strap length now), it's very, very staid and boring.

I just want it to be a bit funkier. I'm early 40s now, and don't want a safe do that's better suited to someone a decade older than me. In fact it's probably better suited to no-one - why should someone a decade older than me be stuck with it?!