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Does your DD wear foundation every day? I feel like a bad parent

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FATEdestiny · 26/10/2016 11:45

I'm really torn about full coverage foundation use in my young dd. She wears it every day.

DD (post-puberty) has teenage spots. Yellow heads mainly, some blackheads and very, very oily skin. No massive cysts but once popped, the yellow heads are red until they fade. Her periods started 2 years ago and she is fully post-pubery. Her hormones are settling now. Her skin isnt though.

So...

Right from the beginning of puberty I introduced skin care and hygiene. For 3 years now she's been washing with salicylic acid products. Cleansing, toning, skin appropriate moisturizing. Adequate makeup removal etc.

No one guided me through that stuff, i was left to figure skincare out for myself. So I'm glad to do it for dd. Now for my dilemma - matt full-coverage foundation.

Despite good skin care, she has spotty skin. She feels more confident about her appearance when she covers her spots, I am trying to help her make good choices. We have tried lots of different types of foundation and have found that unless she has full-coverage stuff she will more-or-less cover her entire face in concealer stick rather than using light/medium coverage foundation. I feel this is worse than just using full coverage foundation. She favours maybeline whipped moose full coverage (sand).

I am beginning to doubt myself. I'm worried about her covering her delicate, precious skin in this thick stuff. On the one hand I want her to be confident in her skin as it is and make-up isn't teaching her this. On the other I want her to be able to take pride in her appearance if she wants to and if that involves wearing make up to cover spots, I want to help guide her to do it well.

She's just finished her foundation pot and has asked for a new one. I feel like some dreadful parent buying my daughter this thick stuff, let alone allowing her to wear it daily.

Should I be discouraging full coverage foundation use every day?
What about her spots?

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PollyPerky · 26/10/2016 18:12

Oh yes- the salicyclic acid stuff could be making it worse- too harsh, drying her skin out, over enthusiastic washing- can all add to the problems.

Kennington · 26/10/2016 20:20

Let her be. But it is likely that this is the very thing aggravating her spots and if she stopped for a few days they might improve. If she could bite the bullet and give it a go she might be surprised.
You certainly are not a bad mum though!!

Softkitty2 · 26/10/2016 20:24

Have you tried mineral foundation from bare minerals? Its buildable and gentle on the skin. She has to use non comodegenic products so it doesnt exacerbate her spots. Also nars sheer glow has good coverage but only a small needed to do the job.

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FATEdestiny · 26/10/2016 21:18

Thank you to everyone who has replied, I have read every post. I feel much better about buying her foundation now.

Going to the doctors is a tricky one. She has never asked to have anything done about her spots. I have mentioned conversationally that she could see a doctor about it. I don't feel right saying "OK, we need to go to the GP about your skin". That's like me telling her she has terrible skin and I don't want her to think that's what I think. I feel the request should come from her (and then I would book an appointment immediately), not me.

Grrr. It's a minefield this parenting malarkey.

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Redken24 · 26/10/2016 21:21

Doctor gave me fucidin for some tricky forehead spots.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 26/10/2016 21:24

I think you're doing the right thing. I was confident at school but I had bad skin for a while which really knocked me - if my mum had tried to stop me from wearing make up I truly believe I would have played truant. Which I never ever did.

RebeccaNoodles · 26/10/2016 21:28

Your poor DD. Definitely take her to doctor - there are so many ways to medicate for spots.

I'd let her wear her full face slap if that's her comfort blanket. I can't see how it would damage her skin if she cleanses properly which it sounds like she is. But also you could send her this video. Life changing for me!

www.lisaeldridge.com/video/12764/acneblemish-covering-make-up/#.WBEQ-oZ4XYU

RebeccaNoodles · 26/10/2016 21:30

PS Sorry, just saw your reply. The idea of the doc has probably just never occurred to her. I think you could suggest it and be guided by her. I was grateful when my mum took me at 15. Good luck

snozzlemaid · 26/10/2016 21:35

My dd was doing the same and it only bothered me because it took her so long to ger ready to go out.
She did ask to go to the doctors and after a course of antibiotics her skin has improved and is now clear. She now uses Zineryt daily which seems to be preventing the spots from coming back.
She still wears a bit of concealer and foundation occasionally but she no longer needs it everytime she steps outside the front door.

PollyPerky · 27/10/2016 14:51

I think you ought to at least mention it and advise her that without treatment she may be left with permanent scarring. She is unlikely to know this so you, as the parent, need to educate her and advise her. You don't want to look back in 10 years and wish you'd done more to help her.

atticusclaw2 · 27/10/2016 14:54

Let her wear it. it won't harm her skin. I wore foundation from age 13 and have worn it every single day of my life since. I'm now 43 and my skin hasn't suffered as a result of wearing makeup (in fact if anything the contrary is the case since the make up has an SPF and so I have very few lines. Generally people think I'm a lot younger than I am).

Underparmummy · 27/10/2016 15:28

Let her wear it, its so hard when you have bad spots. Take her to a dermatologist as well.

HappyCamel · 27/10/2016 15:35

Agree on suggesting a doctor visit. At nearly 40 I'm still on acne meds. No wrinkles or grey hair though so there's an upside! I use spironolactone, not as many side affects as Roaccutane.

BusterGonad · 27/10/2016 15:42

Please can I just add that if you strip your skin of oil it will produce more so please be careful with oily skin as striping it dry will in actual fact have the opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve.

Underparmummy · 27/10/2016 15:42

Roaccutane cleared my skin. I didn't have to take a high dose though which I think helped with side effects (just dry nose and lips and slept easier than normal).

I didn't have to take a high dose as worst had been cleared already by the special spot clearing pill. It unfortunately also gave me a blood clot!

EnidButton · 27/10/2016 19:58

It's a myth that make up can cause acne. Unless it contains any known irritants and so long as she is cleansing properly then it's fine.

Definitely let her wear it. Having spots or acne can be damaging for self esteem at any age let alone during her tricky age.

Risk offending her and take her to the GP. Roacctane is far too severe at her age but topical things like zineryt (topical anti biotic with zinc) can be very affective and as far as meds go it's fairly gentle.

Personally, face washes etc aimed at spot prone skin make my skin much worse when I have break outs. I can't tolerate salicylic or glycolic acid in products.

The French brands like La Roche Posay and Avene might be a good place to start looking.

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