Someone throw some funeral outfit inspiration my way please!!

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Basically that really. I'm so stumped at what to wear to a funeral next Monday. It's for dp's grandad who lived up country whom we didn't see all that often.... maybe once every couple of years.
Luckily for me I haven't had to attend many funerals, which is why I'm asking for help as black dresses seem to be really nice but more like going out dresses or dreary work dresses.
And what shoes?? I only have black ballet shoes or black high heels.
Thanks in advance

Grey, black, navy. Plain. A white shirt is okay, with sober accessories. No tinsel, no glitz, no skin. Not a shopping opportunity. One to dress for from your existing wardrobe. Unless there's an explicit instruction to do otherwise. If the deceased was close family, and loved something you wore and you still have it, you could wear it in memoriam. But if you were five and the deceased liked your Christmas fairy outfit, it's one to forget.

"Dreary work wear" is fine - it's a funeral not a fashion show. I never understand the angst about funeral wear here on S&B, it should never be about 'having' to buy anything, few people truly don't have a black/navy/grey skirt and a black/navy/grey cardigan.

Thanks, your right I AM over thinking it. Xx

I agree Damson

Agree too Damson. Can't really understand people using terms like 'outfit' or 'pair with' as if they were enjoying putting together what they were going to wear for a happy fun occasion like a wedding or a special party.

I wore a grey dress with a pink floral pattern , a black jacket , black shoes and skin tone tights for my Dads funeral

He loved plants and trees , so it was appropriate

Dark colours , navy or grey are fine , work trousers and a nice top ( a jacke or coat will be needed as there's a lot of hanging around )

I have a plain black shift dress I wear similar to this

www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod_10701_10001_028020725460?CMP=SSH&tmcampid=28&tmad=c&sku=8202290&placmp=SSH_2826109765_274469930_17050227050&mkwid=sUgPvy7Iu%7cpcrid%7c69400328210%7cpkw%7c%7cpmt%7c%7cpdv%7cc%7cprd%7c8202290&gclid=COzohYLntM8CFUco0wod_0cKoA

It's knee length, fitted but not clingy and has zero cleavage on show. I wear it with a plain jacket, tights and black mary janes. I bought it for mums funeral as it felt right to wear a dress/skirt rather than trousers as she always hated me wearing jeans all the time.

Prior to that I've worn black smart trousers with a dark coloured shirt.

The rules for me are:
No excessive cleavage
Not too short
Not too tight
Dark colours unless specified (exeption is that lots of people will wear white shirts with dark trousers/jacket.)

The two you linked the first one may well be far too tight and the second one is far too "party wear" Dreary work clothes are what you need.

One or two harsh comments on here I think. There are lots of people who've hardly ever been to a funeral and don't know what's expected of them. I can understand the angst - you don't want to get it wrong.

No absolutely understandable to ask for guidance I agree, but I think the patience of some of us waned a bit when, after so many posts making good general and specific advice, including to avoid the nightclub look at all costs, she still ordered that cold shoulder dress. Anyway there's plenty of guidance now so hope it's useful.

I'm one of the few who didn't possess suitable dark skirt of trousers for FIL's funeral. February funeral - I found a neat long charcoal tunic in Laura Ashley which I wore with opaque black tights (I'm a bit of a shortarse, so it was just above knee length) and calf length boots, with a neat little black cardi. As it was bloody cold, I wore a vaguely dressy pink and charcoal checked coat over it all, anyhow.

There's a few in a similar vein in this year's collection, to show what I meant by tunic - theirs really are dress length on all but very tall women
www.lauraashley.com/uk/fashion/tunics/icat/tunics

I would have thought that common sense would tell you that funerals are all about dressing respectfully and somberly unless otherwise specified.

We had a tragedy in our area a couple of years ago when two boys were murdered by their father and everyone was asked to wear bright colours to the funeral, but this isn't the norm.

So those dresses have been sent packing, wouldn't wear them on a night out either after trying them on. Black trousers, top and Cardi will do.

good call.