Dressing an 11 year old for a funeral.

[SirVixofVixHall]

It is my mother's funeral, if that makes a difference. I have taken my dds to funerals before, and they haven't ever worn black (most black for children is either party wear or school uniform anyway), but they have worn pale grey, or navy, or cream/white with a dark grey cardigan etc. I have a dove grey silk dress for dd2, but my older daughter has grown out of everything and will need a new outfit. I live in the back of beyond so it has to be online. I have been browsing but I can't find anything appropriate. I want something beautiful, she is doing a reading so not just part of the congregation. Cost not really an issue, although I probably wouldn't spend a lot over £100, as she will need a cardigan and possibly shoes. I thought maybe someone might know of a website I'm not aware of. I'm off to browse Elias and Grace now.

Thank you gleegeek. I'm sorry you've also lost your Mum.
I have a slight obsession with clothes, I have worked in fashion, I collect vintage, I remember events by what I was wearing, and I even have nightmares about clothes....so I think it probably matters more to me than most people what I wear, and what the children wear. I thought I would marry a man with different weights of tweed suit for different seasons, and sea island cotton shirts, but DH couldn't care less about clothing. He just wants to be comfortable. (sensible).

The pics I've posted of DD2's dresses look terrible. They are much lovelier in real life, shimmering, floaty, thin silk. The grey has delicate lace trim and the navy is cotton at the bodice. They are both just above the ankle and look rather Elizabeth Bennet. So I'd hoped to find something else rather antique looking for DD1. The white Tulip and Nettle dresses I linked to are a similar shape, but I'm worried than white silk isn't sombre enough?
I am going to town tomorrow, and there is a small Debenhams. Not as big as in the nearest city, but they might have some Yumi dresses I can look at. There is a Monsoon too, but it is rather weeny. I'll go in thought and look at some of the things mentioned. In fact there is a Next, so they might have the grey dress.

Oh and thanks for the comments about dd. She read at my father's funeral- she was only 7 and was word perfect and clear as a bell. She has a lovely singing voice so may well sing this time instead of reading, or read a poem. She is mulling over what she wants to do.

might this work? Maybe too somber but very beautiful

Oh MrsLettuce I absolutely love that. I had thought I wouldn't go for actual black but it is so beautiful.

So sorry for your loss sirvix. I totally understand your worries about the outfit. Ive been obsessing about what my dds (4 and 10) should wear to FIL funeral. I want them to look smart but not be uncomfortable. I don't particularly want them in black but don't want the 10 year old to feel out of place if everyone else is in black. Its also the wrong time of year to be finding dark clothes I've found.

I can't advise you anymore as I've found nothing more than what others on the thread have. Hope you find something suitable.

Sending you lots of love sirvixo
What an amazing DD you have to be able to do a reading at her age and in such sad circumstances. And I'm sure your younger DD is equally amazing. You should be very proud.
I have been thinking of you and I still am

QueenC I am sorry about your FIL- and yes I agree it is a tricky time of year as everything is either quite casual and summery or full on Wedding party.
littlemaemae, how kind of you to post when you've been having such a grotty time. You must be completely exhausted!