Why do people say thing like, aren't you hot in that, of aren't you cold in that

[LardLizard]

Is it a way of having a sly dig?

They're just making conversation. You're over thinking it. Relax.

I'm always cold so people say this to me all the time . I never thought to take it any way other than their curiosity.

What a polite response then ?

I'm guessing well if I was, I would wear something cooler.....
Is a bit snáppy

I just say that I'm always cold so not really or no I'm fine thanks.I guess it is a bit of an odd question but I think it's just making conversation

It depends what you are wearing. If you are wearing something completely unsuited to the temperature outside then it is probably a fair question.
How frequently does this happen to you?

This annoys me - the in laws are always saying things like that about my children - I do feel like they're having a dig and it drives me crazy!!!

It does happen to be fairly often

I have also had comments like, your very glam for this time of the day

A simple yes or no would suffice.

I wouldn't be able to get through the day if I got annoyed over things like that.

Well, at least they notice you . Sounds to me your clothes are noteworthy, and if they say 'glam', I'd hazard a guess they're a tiny bit envious.

I do get your ire tho.

Well say if I was going out for lunch with friends, if dress for that, so I just dress for my day, so what I wear can vary a lot , so many that makes it noticeable

Mind you the other day I used some bb cream that didn't suit me, it was too dark, so probably looked like I had loads of make up on
That attracted a comment.....

I don't really comment on others, unless I really like something, I guess I find ambiguous comments a tad puzzling

I find someone in a jumper on a hot day makes me feel even hotter - same with DD walking round in a vest top in winter makes me feel cold -

It's a feeling! That's all.

When low rise jeans were fashionable (and I was in my 20s) some of my older colleagues would say, on dress down days, "ooh, you'll get a chill on your kidneys! Aren't you cold in those?"

(It was summer).

I think it can be a way of having a dig and implying that your mind isn't on higher things like theirs because you're frivolous, or unable to tell what the weather is like, or whatever.

A bit like when some women say, "you're very glamorous, aren't you?" with a stony face because you've put a bit of lippy and some heels on.

I doubt they care tbh, it's just conversation.
Ffs.

I suspect that I am pre-menopausal. so if I get 'aren't you cold?' comments I get a bit self conscious. I also never make the comment (to anyone 40+) because I remember my Mum and aunts needing to step out side to cool down! However I am probably massively overthinking this.