funeral attire

[hollinhurst84]

Is this dress ok? With a dark grey coat over the top of it. It's the long length of the dress (Boden!) so comes over my knees and is darker than pic so more charcoal grey
Dress code is mourning attire (black tie)

Yes, of course.

Yes, definitely appropriate.

Yes, its perfect.
Condolences.

Yes . I actually have that dress and it's certainly OK.

Black tie as in lounge suits and black ties for men, or as in formal black tie?

I don't know :/

Exact wording is Mourning attire is appropriate (…black tie)

Your dress is perfect Hollin, honestly.

I've been to a fair number of funerals including some very traditional Catholic services and that dress would have been fine every time.

Having said that, I've never come across 'black tie' in a funeral context. Is it possible to check with someone close to the family?

I'm sorry for your loss.

That's a really confusing dress code. I assume that they mean black TIES for men; I have never, ever heard of a black tie funeral but maybe you could check if it's appropriate? The dress is ideal, but you'd be slightly underdressed in the (highly unlikely) event that it's a black tie funeral.

I can't sadly. The circumstances are... Tricky to say the least. Not a natural death
It's titled celebration of life
To me it reads both ways as in "wear a black tie" and also "black tie"

Oh no, I'm so sorry.

OK. I think in that lovely dress, plus smart coat, smart heels, with tasteful jewellery and grooming, you'll be set for both eventualities.

I hope it goes well.

I have nude heels or black t bars. Or suede dark mink t bars?
Dark grey coat too

What a sad situation, I'm really sorry.

In that case, I would assume that 'black tie' is an instruction to the men. As 'mourning attire', that dress would be perfectly appropriate for every funeral I've ever been to.

Sorry I missed the shoe question. Given the ambiguity, I'd go for black.

Yes to the the grey coat. I would make sure you're wrapped up warmly and, if it's a burial, take an umbrella.

I'd probably go with the black shoes. Coat sounds perfect.

It's cremation so should be ok. Grey coat is quite warm and dress is too
I can wear black t bar heels and black clutch which should work
Shitty situation

I'm so sorry you're all having to go through it.

I'm only a recent friend really so just want to blend in! I think that will be nice and unobtrusive

The black tie mourning attire note is simply advising people that they would like them to make the effort to go dressed appropriately for a funeral

Nowadays people oftenwear their work clothing or no tie etc
old school would dictate changing and wearing suitably sombre clothing and men wearing a long black tie and suit to show appropriate mark of mourning