Do you always feel fabulous when well-dressed, or only when someone else notices?
Do you dress up "for" someone - yourself, your DH, everyone who has to lay eyes on you, your Mum - whoever?
If you dress differently from normal does it feel wrong or as though you're letting yourself/ someone else down?
This is kind of in appreciation of the thread written by the person dressing up for her Dad's funeral, which is very nice and very sad.
I grew up as the ugly black sheep in a fairly dysfunctional household where my mother and sister have their identities very much tied up in appearance and in what others think of their appearance. I feel all wrong, fat, ugly, wonky, in anything other than jeans, fleece, a tshirt and trainers - I feel like I'm wasting money if I buy good clothes or makeup - and those that i own, I never wear. If someone says anything about my appearance i am immediately defensive. I think it has a lot to do with listening to my mother and sister pick other people's appearances to shreds, all my life. They're both beautiful, very well-dressed, and very insecure. I think they would feel exposed and wrong in jeans and a fleece. I know my mother would dearly love to relate to me over nice clothes and tidy appearance, but I can't bring myself to do it. So I go on being the slob that disappoints her 